Obsessed over hating this girl my BF talk to

Im dating a co-worker and there is this girl at work who all the boys talk to (shes not even pretty like me) and she is trying to create misunderstanding between me and my boyfriend. I tried to tell my guy this and asked him not to talk to her but he thought I was just jealous and asked her not to talk to him in front of me as he dint want to hurt me but continued talking to her behind my back . I was terribly hurt when I found out and he said he would never do it again. But since that bitch goes out with all the male co-workers every weekend, I am not able to stop him form going out with them. I mean he has to have fun with the boys too but she is always there. Im sick of her and want to poison her or somethin. please tell me what to do!?I broke up with my guy tonight as he went out with all of them again. Am i right? Should i stick to this decision? Because he has portrayed me as a psycho dominating GF, I feel like a lot of people at work avoid me these days. What to do??

Hi - Welcome.

I'm going to move your topic over to the Relationships sub-forum, as it better suited there than the GAD forum. I hope you can get some helpful responses here about the situation.

- EGD.

EarlGreyDregs wrote:Hi - Welcome.

I'm going to move your topic over to the Relationships sub-forum, as it better suited there than the GAD forum. I hope you can get some helpful responses here about the situation.

- EGD.

Sure - Thank you . Would you have any advice for me on this?

In life, there will always be people who we might feel the need to envy, and the reason for this is because we perceive them to have something that we feel that we ourselves may lack. This often comes down to low self esteem. Perhaps by building up your sense of self esteem, from within, without feeling the need to have it validated externally, you can overcome these feelings of envy. Your boyfriend could have chosen to be with this other girl, but he chose to be with you. If your self esteem had been higher, you might have taken his decision at face value.

I can't say whether or not you were right to split with him, as there may be other things going on in the relationship that you haven't mentioned here, but maybe if the split is final, you could use this time to work upon your own self esteem, and try to value yourself, just as you are? Therapy can help you to do this.

I take it that you didn't mean that you wanted to literally poison her, as this of course would be illegal.

It's sort of impossible to have an opinion on this without knowing more specifics. I really can't tell if you're a "psycho dominating GF" OR if she's a "bitch" who's "trying to create misunderstanding."

For all anybody can tell you're extremely paranoid and jealous. Or maybe it's the opposite - maybe you're understating things and she's way worse than you say even.

But in either case you probably made the right decision. Either you have a serious problem in your relationship or you're just not ready for a relationship. And either way the feeling that you want to poison this woman is just not a good sign. Something is definitely very wrong.

My only advice would be to try and see if there's been a pattern like this with you before. Have you had other problems in other relationships with jealousy and anger? Have other people called you dominating or psycho? If things like this have come up before and the common denominator is you - then it's probably time to do some introspection, see a counselor, and see what's going on.

You work with this group? Are you invited with him when the group gets together?

If he won't take you seriously and listen to you, then he's not worth your time. He knows that you don't like talking or being around this girl, yet he does it deliberately behind your back so you don't know. Personally I think it was right to break it off with him. Find a guy who will listen whole-heartedly to you