I just can't forgive her

I'm in a predicament at the moment, one that is pretty juvenile but is stressing me a little. I just need some advice.

It's my birthday soon and I'm having a meal with a lot of my friends. There is a member of our circle of friends who I don't know whether to invite.

Now, she is no 'friend' of mine although she once claimed to be. As a person I am generally quite forgiving and don't hold on to hate, but she has pushed me to my limits by doing what she did to me.
There was this guy who I liked. A lot. We were talking and got pretty close, it felt like we were going somewhere. My friend found out about this through gossip and reluctantly I told her it was true. For the next few weeks she'd constantly ask me about him and insinuate that she was thrilled about it. I told her I really liked him. However, at a party she ended up kissing him.

Now I wasn't or could't be angry at him because we weren't exclusive or anything. I just stopped talking to him and moved on. However, with her I just couldn't forget the pain she caused me. She 'apologised' to me about it, and then was all over him again at another party whilst I was there.

She was never a very close friend of mine. She honestly thinks she's beautiful and complains when men don't give her attention. She believes that everyone is attracted to her and is so mean about other random people and what they look like.

Because I didn't want any hostility I forgave her and told her that I was fine with it all. However, I haven't really acted very warmly to her since.

Now I don't know whether to invite her. I don't want to invite everyone else and not her - I'd feel so mean. On the other hand though I feel so uncomfortable when she's around me and have no interest in being anything other than acquaintances with her. All of my other friends state they wouldn't ask her and think I'm crazy for considering it. I just don't want things to be awkward at other social events and definitely don't want her to tell the guy I liked, in case he thinks that I'm not over him. I am over him, just not what my 'friend' did.

Please help me!

Thank you

Forgiveness is different in different situations.

I can't advise on this one in particular because it doesn't relate well to any i've been in myself. The way you describe her you sound like you don't really like her that much, that would be my first concern about inviting people to parties, forgetting what they guy will think etc.

The only perspective i have on forgiveness is I guess forgiveness is not just about forgiveness its about trust. if you learn you can't trust a person you can't treat them as if you can trust them.

and is so mean about other random people and what they look like.

Don't invite people like this to anything ever, cut her out of your life.

And stop being such a pussy, you're worried you'll hurt her poor little feelings? Well maybe she can work on not being an absolute c**t, and I'm not even talking about that first kiss she had, I'm talking about my quote. To me, that says it all about her.

Yes, exclude her and let her find a new circle of friends in which to spread mayhem and discord.

It's not cruel, it'd be cruel to your party guests to have to be around a poison like that.

Forgiving her doesn't mean letting her back into your life, forgive her but don't let her near you.

She doesn't sound like someone you would want as friend. Don't feel bad about not inviting her...even a little.