by jj2005 » Tue Jan 15, 2013 8:29 pm
Just wondered if anybody could tell me if this sounds like some sort of BPD? I was seeing this girl for around 3 months,it seemed to good to be true to me at first because she was so nice and made me feel so special,but I went along with it because i did like her.also has a kid just over 1 and the dad had to visit often.I didn't live with just stayed when I could about 4 nights a week. Anyway she broke up with me after 3 months due to family issues which were quite bad, but I didn't know why it affected me. She said she loved me but can't be in a relationship at the moment, so i just assumed it was me. When we were together she did text me a few times saying she was going to bed to just cry and everything gets to her,this was before the further family issues. Also told me she tried to kill herself with in the past with pills,didn't go into detail and she text me after the breakup saying she is not right and needs help,once said she was weird too and I should know that.I remember her going on about how great her friends and her parents are,but her parents never help her,only her sister who I know has some sort of problem ,possibly bipolar. There was no aggression or anger during the 3 months but it start to creep in slightly after breaking up when I still seen her a few times. We kept in touch for a month after arguing about why she was breaking up with me, then kept saying delete each others numbers,but didn't,I even slept with her again,after which she said I love you but i need to let go,she would also randomly phone and text everyday. I have now deleted her number and not spoke for a week as we both agreed it was best. I feel quite bad though because i did say I think you have a personality disorder, i apologized,but did say again you have issues. I felt she was quite harsh on me in the end with the constant keeping tabs on me and it was too confusing for me. I don't know if I will hear from her again,we both got annoyed in the last exchange with texting. I did love her,but I think I need to move on, just felt bad for leaving things like that,but also I really think I shouldn't say anything else to make it worse. Actually hate myself for going on at her. She told me she would not be doing this if her situation was different and did use the old excuses it's not you it's me and you deserve better,when I pulled her up about them excuses usually meaning it was you,she said I know, believe me though in this case it is me and I am not a b***h and I don't lie,my life is f****d up. I am pretty sure she does lie a lot but does not realize it.1 more thing she claimed she didn't drink much but seem to go out and get absolutely wrecked, then had to be brought home by other people, even said she had been drink driving a few times after,not the sort of person I would ever expect to do that.