How can i live without her?

I'm not even sure how I got in the position I'm in, and I'm not sure why i'm writing my story here on the internet. I guess in a way it makes me feel like I have someone to talk to, someone "normal" to tell me their opinion.

first, i'm a men and i'm 27yr old. i had 2 ''real'' girlfriend in my life. first, I was with Kate from 16yr old to 18yr old. She is indeed my 1st true love, but I broke up with her after 2 years of relationship because i cheated her with a girl called Vicky. after some times, Vicky became my girlfriend from 18yr old until the last year (9yr of relationship). for me, she was the perfect girl and I would have done anything for her. but last year, it has been for me the ''end of the world'' when she decided to broke up with me without any good reason.


Now here is where my issue begins, since she broke up, I finally got over her but not totally, every night I can't go to sleep because i start thinking about her for hours and i have the worst feeling in the world because she is not with me and because she will never be in my bed again, but probably with another guy and it is really unbearable... I did anything to make this feeling go away, even drinking and smoking weed until i pass out... Yeah i know thats pretty pathetic but it's the only way i found to get her out of my mind.

any help would be really appreciate!

thanks a lot!

-Dark Templar

why don't you try going back to her? buy her some jewelry and flowers and say sorry. They say jewelry, flower, and chocolate industry is driven by men apologizing to wife.

onevoice wrote:why don't you try going back to her? buy her some jewelry and flowers and say sorry. They say jewelry, flower, and chocolate industry is driven by men apologizing to wife.

first thank you for your help, it's really appreciate. but when my ex-girlfriend broke up, i tried pretty much everything to get her back but she wanted to broke up for good and even if i give her the moon, she's not going to come back with me.

in fact it's true, she miss me a lot and that make me sad since 1 years now but i deal with it. but when i see her in my mind before to go to sleep and even sometimes in my dream (i would even say in my worse nightmare), i see her with another guy and they seem to be happy as two fish in the water...

if seeing my ex-girlfriend in my mind with another guy make me sick, what would happen if i would see her with another guy in the real life right in front of me? ... sooner or later, i'll need to face the truth and i will need to be mentally ready to face the truth.. but HOW???... that's why i'm seeking for help.

New relationships, because there is more then on girl in the world, although it doesn't seem possible does it...

Probably due to your bad grammar and spelling.

Lay off the alcohol, buy some nice clothes and get out there and find someone else. What did you expect from the girl? You cheated with her on your last girlfriend. She obviously doesn't have good morals.

onevoice wrote:why don't you try going back to her? buy her some jewelry and flowers and say sorry. They say jewelry, flower, and chocolate industry is driven by men apologizing to wife.

If a relationship is superficial enough to be mended with gifts, it should end.

I suggest you take this time to focus on yourself. You are whole person without her, you WILL meet someone else, but it's good to be alone sometimes. Now is a great time to reassess your life and decide what YOU want for yourself. Good luck!

I can understand how thinking of the girl you used to be with laughing, talking, going on dates, being intimate emotionally and physically, and doing all the things you used to do with her with another man can be painful.

You might never be entirely comfortable with the thought of her doing these things with another man when that man used to be you, although as time passes and you and she age it may get easier. The best thing you can do to get over her might be to find someone else who can do these things for you. A brand new 21 or 22-year old woman in your life might be what the doctor ordered.