Too Nervous to Ask Girls out, becoming Depressed/Suicidal

I've recently been having some confidence issues in regards to asking girls out, and it's beginning to seriously affect me. There's a girl I currently have strong feelings for, and I'm fine being friends with her, but I tend to choke completely when I try to ask her out(I've never asked a girl out before, and recently my nervousness has lost me a shot at one), and one of my friends is planning to ask her out soon, so I have to act fast. I genuinely fear the damage I might do to myself if I don't.

It's really scary to put yourself out there like that, Jeddaven. It's opening yourself up to being shot down. A big risk.

And it's a risk that's worth taking. If she says no, then it's her loss. She's missing out on the chance to date a really nice guy. See it as good practice for when you find someone else that's worth asking.

Any NICE woman will not laugh at you if you do choke up while asking. Or stutter or whatever. That's one way you know if she's worth dating or not. So just pluck up whatever courage you can and go for it. Ask her to something relatively simple like the movies. That makes conversation easier, you automatically have something to discuss afterwards.

There are plenty of fish in the sea, Jeddaven. You may think this girl is special, but she's probably not really all that special.

Jeddaven, it may help to remember that everyone has been rejected at times...you should not feel you need to race your friend or beat him to the punch in asking her out. we all want companionship and deserve it. However if you care about her, and yourself, you should realize you deserve a feeling of self confidence, and you deserve to love and value yourself regardless of her reaction. S long s you are so dependent approval then you will always hinge everything on these dates and you may remain frustrated. The relationships won't work out well when you are dependent...so perhaps focus on your own self worth and loving yourself, then asking girls out will be less life our death and you will be able to simply enjoy. The other piece is to realize we ALL get very nervous asking someone out who we like so one trick I'd to become more tolerant of that queasy feeling. Bravery is not a,lack of fear but rather it is a tolerance for fear. Good luck, you will find love! katie

-- Mon Dec 17, 2012 12:06 am --

Jeddaven, it may help to remember that everyone has been rejected at times...you should not feel you need to race your friend or beat him to the punch in asking her out. we all want companionship and deserve it. However if you care about her, and yourself, you should realize you deserve a feeling of self confidence, and you deserve to love and value yourself regardless of her reaction. S long s you are so dependent approval then you will always hinge everything on these dates and you may remain frustrated. The relationships won't work out well when you are dependent...so perhaps focus on your own self worth and loving yourself, then asking girls out will be less life our death and you will be able to simply enjoy. The other piece is to realize we ALL get very nervous asking someone out who we like so one trick I'd to become more tolerant of that queasy feeling. Bravery is not a,lack of fear but rather it is a tolerance for fear. Good luck, you will find love! katie