New relationship need advice!

Hi, I just signed up here looking for some help. So here is my story...

I met this amazing girl a few weeks ago. She is everything i could ever hope for. We had this amazing connection right from the start and its well umm amazing She let me know early on that she has social anxiety and is bi polar. I have a good idea of how to handle the Bi polar part ( I was diagnosed bi polar 7 years ago). But i have been screwing every thing up in the anxiety department. I am some what of a "planner". She on the other hand does not so much care for making plans.

When i asked her to go out of town with me for the weekend she got very anxious and just kept telling me she didn't know. It finally clicked tonight in my head tonight that i have been going about this all wrong. I took it as her being closed off and depressed. After hearing her increasingly grow more anxious over the thought of making this plan it all made sense. I refuse to let my ignorance to this disorder ruin the potential of our relationship. I have been doing some reading but i thought it would be best to get some opinions from others.

I need to know the best way to approach her about spending time with me. I hate that i caused her an anxiety attack. It is very important to me to learn how to handle this in the best way possible. Any help you all could share would be very much appreciated.

Hi, it's good to hear that your new relationship is going well. Have you tried asking your girlfriend what would help her? She may have a good idea of the sort of things that trigger her anxiety.

I know that I don't like to plan ahead, especially if I can avoid it. I prefer to decide what to do each day depending upon how I feel. But that may not match how your girlfriend prefers to do things.

I think it's definitely worth discussing this issue with her. If you're a planner, you may like the idea of planning special dates as a way of showing your affection and commitment to the relationship. If she isn't going to respond well to that sort of effort, you probably want to know, and to work out alternatives ways of demonstrating your feelings. (Ways which make you both feel good.)