I want my ex back but he's just split with his ex

Hey all,

In 2010 I dated an acquaintance and we started seeing each other. At the time I was cut up about my ex, who affected me very negatively. At the time I was quite messed up and was very up and down, one minute I wanted to date next minute I sent them packing and went back to my ex! I wasn't emotionally available.

Fast forward to 2012 I have made strides in my emotional health and stopped recent unhealthy behaviour (casual sex!), been through therapy etc..

So I met up with my acquaintance and he tells me that he has split with his girlfriend after me - they were together for a year. We went to a party together. I have always regretted cutting him loose. I apologised for my behaviour in 2010 and explained how I have changed. I found out that he had split with ex just four days prior to this party and this information came after we made out!

I said to him that it would be best for him to go and process whether he still wants me and if he's over his ex and give it at least a few months before seeing what me and him have. I don't want to be no rebound.

On Sunday he asked me to go round for dinner - I went and we made out a little and I explained to him my concerns that he's not moved on yet from his ex. He assures me that he is fine with his ex and that there relationship ended a while ago and it was just going through the motions. Whether this is true or not I will be taking it slow - but I am slightly concerned with how quickly he contacted me for a meet up (3 weeks).

Has anyone else been in this situation before?

no then?

###$ off