People calling me short for no reason

Hi all,

I've always been insecure about my height. I'm a 165 cm (5'5 foot) male of kurdish heritage living in the netherlands. I have a pretty handsome face I'm told and I have a good physique. My height has always held me back. I've never had a relationship or had sex. Last couple months I have been getting more confidence. I've been able to make out 2 times in the club, the first times of making out in my life. The thing is, I'm still getting insecure about my height due to how girls react to me. Last night going out, I'v e been told 2 times by girls that I'm so short. Both of the times I wasn't even hitting on them. One of them even told me I looked like snookie from jersey shore.They tell me I'm so cute ( Like baby cute, although i look manly) Why do girls do this? It's the same as saying oh you're so fat or you nose is so big or you're ugly. Girl's tell me this pretty often these last days. Since last night going out I feel really insecure again. I have gotten attraction from pretty girls in the past I think ( almost pretty sure), but these comments always hold me back. Please be honest to me, don't try to make me feel better. I want to hear the truth: I think because of my height I won't get pretty girls.

thanks in advance

wow! 165 cm in the Netherlands, tough gig height wise. But sounds like you're doing pretty good.

I know how you feel bro. Womean have dumped me for my height and I am 5'9"! I once was introduced to a bar tender in a bar and the first thing she said is, "You're so tiny!". WTF! What has that got to do with anything? Nothing, that's what. And here's the weird thing, I am 5'9" 165 lbs. So WTF. I'll tell you why women do this, especially in pick up settings like bars - they are much more hardwired to act instinctively when it comes to mate selection. They turn off their brains - I'm sure you can think back to numerous examples of your own like this. It is not logical.

So is it hopeless? No way. And I'm not trying to make you feel better. The key is proper marketing which means image projection and selecting your market audiance. This boils down to confidence and staying out of bars and clubs. When women go to bars they primp first, prepare to be mated, look for neanderthals and turn their brains off. Hence, "You're so short! Likely you won't hear this at the supermarket. This works if you're 6', as you know, not so easy at 165 cmd. So, find girls that respect themselves (gyms, hobbies like rock climbing, whatever). Note, these may be the same girls you will find in the bar, but here they have better sense and are likely to be better, less superficial girls. This also gives them a chance to get to know you before dismissing you out right for your height right off the bat. Girls are not all or nothing when it comes to height, it's just in a meat market setting it saves time to triage. So, you never get to bat, even though they would let you join the team if they ever let you bat. They just don't know it.

For confidence, it's simplest of all. Just be yourself and be comfortable with that. (Eventually you will have to anyway.) Don't you find yourself confortable around people like that and admire them for their sense of themselves? Everybody digs that, especially chicks. Don't try to hide the fact that you're short or make excuses, that's an instant deal killer. Once you believe, others will too, it's just in a bar, it's so physical first that you get discounted before they can see the rest.

Hears my take on it! Take what you like and leave the rest.

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I cannot let women rule anything!, they no nothing, and they do not know what they want.
you take command! That is what you have to do.

You must take over and make them laugh, laugh, laugh! Do not laugh at your own jokes. Its how you make them feel, that is what counts. ONce they are attracted to you, they cannot turn it off.

This is not about them. This is about you.

If you need love, or motherly love, go to a therapist and go to God. Try to understand, women are not your friends.. They will not be your friends or you therapist. I know this is horrible. Most people I meet do not have dignity. Im so sorry its this way. Its very confusing to me! your not alone!

If they think your cute then play on it.. These girls are insensitive. Yet, you chose to be around them.. Take them over, rule them or leave them. Do not let them take advantage or in charge. Do not blame the girls for treating you with disrespect; no one forced you to be around these specific girls. If you want better people to associate with; you are going to learn to work at it..

Quality people; it sounds like that is what your looking for!


2. You sound like a decent person; you sound sensitive and caring!, you are aware of many things, including yourself and others. I want you to think for a moment!, Where did you say you were going through these problems! At a club!, You want attention, you want women. Makes sense, However, where did you say your going to find these women. At a club!, What kind of people do you think you are going to find at this club!, sensitive caring loving mature decent understanding kind, trustworthy, faithful people. Hmmmm..... Think again... !