Need some direct answers to direct questions

Hey All:

I posed a while back dealing with my then GF who was going through RTS. Her ex beat and raped her. Regrettably she broke up with me as she felt "incapable of being in a relationship." Anyways, our long distance (she is in Europe and I am in the States) ends in 3 weeks. We will be in the same city again, (Europe) and I am still in love with this girl (even though she has treated me horribly through this process). I have a few questions and if anyone can give me some qualified responses it would be greatly appreciated.

1. Will she ever be able to look at me again without associating me with her ex?
2. She entered the 2nd phase aka the "Realization" phase of RTS in November and had gripped her wholeheartedly until just recently. I'm *starting* to see the old her come back. Will the old her come back more and more and more, or will she take 2 steps forward in turn to take 2 steps back.
3. I've talked to a few rape victims near me to just try to get a better grip on what is going on. One thing they all shared is they went through a "slut" phase after the rape. My ex is a very very very classy woman, and I'd never expect this from her. Is said "slut" phase universal, e.g., a step all must go through or can some avoid it altogether.
4. Given she attached many/if not all of her feelings she had for her ex onto me, what steps should I take to get her comfortable being around me again?
5. She loved me when she entered RTS, and she says I've done nothing wrong, so I figure I've got a pretty good shot at getting her back. Should I have hope, or should I realize the old her is gone forever and try to move on?

[i]hi bismark

i can understand you wanting to know what the future holds in your relationship with this girl but in all honesty i don't think any of us can give you accurate answers, everyone deals with this stuff in their own unique way and i don't think we can speculate as to how it is for your girlfriend.

i want to say, stay and be there for her thru it all because that is what id like, but only you know if you can stick it out thru all that she must be going through. wouldn't be easy for you i am sure but no matter how hard it is for you its ten times worse for her. i think.. if you don't love the person she has become, it will be kinder in the long run to leave the relationship for her sake as well as for yours.

i hope im not sounding to harsh i don't mean to be

take care [/i]

Hey

I don't have the answer to your questions, but one thing I want to pick up on is the 'slut' phase. I wouldn't consider it to be that, instead look at it as people needing to revisit the scene of the crime. Also be aware people progress through RTS at different rates and get slip into any stage at any time.

Sorry for not being more helpful.

Take care