I saw my attacker

Hey all

I dont know what do do, I was raped 9 years ago by two men, I have recently seen one of them in my area, very close to where i live. I know he has seen and recognised me. The slime even held the door open for me at my local shop. I feel so sick. I am petrified that because i did not report it all those years ago he will think he can do it again.

What do i do?

i wish i could find the words to ease your pain & worries... there unfortunately isn't too much you can do. be alert - always. you could always report him now... there's nothing saying that it's too late. stay strong! tell someone close to you - so that you are not alone in the quest for avoidance of him. i too began seeing my attacker around the area i was living. he was always doing things to mess with me, like parking next to my car at the store, or purposly driving by the house slowly so i'd see him. i know how you feel. if you need a friend, i am here...

That must have been extremely scary and stressful hon. I don't know how i'd react to seeing my ex who raped me somewhere..

All you can do is be cautious, and be aware of those who are around you. Try to stay safe, and know that you are stronger now, and that even though this was a shock to see him again, hopefully you wont have to anymore.

I wish I had more words for you sweetie, but I'm all out of them at the moment.

hey sweetie,
sorry to hear that you have had to face him again, and welldone for not freaking out.

My attacker came back to find me only hours after the attack, I cant imagine what it must be like after so many years...I am sorry that I cannot be more helpful, just having memories.

xxxxx

I haven't seen my ex in quite a long time now, but I have seen the other who assaulted me, one a few times actually, and I was nervous and uncomfortable, but I tired to keep my distance, and just ignored him.
I rarely see or hear of him or heard from him in a very long time.

you should report this man! he is dangerous and could do stuff to other people, call the police, or see someone who can help you. dont leave it. im sorry what happened to you.

I dont see the point in reporting him now, Its his word against mine and it happend so so so long ago. I'm aware that it was my responsability to make sure that he was unable to do it to anyone else and in this i failed. My fear at the time took compleate hold of me. Unfortunatly now i have left it too late

Since my post I have seen him a few times. He has even attempted to talk to me. I am just ignoring him and avoiding local areas like my local pub where he might be.

I was raped two years ago during my senior year of highschool by a man who used to be my manager. He had moved away and a few months after the rape he showed up at my work and asked me how I was doing. I didn't reply and was just furious for days. Finally I talked to someone and I did feel better. Maybe that would be an option? Even when you feel like you're over it, something like that is really tramatic and I understand why you're SO upset about it because I know I was. I hope you find something that works for you and just realize that it's your right to be upset by seeing him.