so lucky in a way but has made me so nervous

When I read what everyone else has gone through I was lucky, as it was in a public toilet and he got disturbed and it did not last long at all, I still hate it, but when I read about how much worse it could have been I am grateful.

I'm so nervous though, I was in this bubble before, I believed you were safe and I just lived, but now everyone scares me, my Grand folks were always so wonderful and honouable living in their world I believed everyone was like that.

I wonder at my ability to judge characters though, as I did trust someone since this happened, no romance actually existed between us although he said he felt a lot for me, but I considered and hoped that our friendship would lead to romance in the long term, but I was going to take my time, I've always felt this way.

But he turned out to be a very bad person that was hurting children, the school didn't know, his family didn't know, so I know it's probably not strange I didn't know, but I still feel terrible that I didn't.

it doesnt matter how long something lasts...it has still happened.but i can understand the fact u feel that youve been lucky.but it wil still havwe a long lasting effect on you.its good you found you could still maybe be romantic with someone but now your dounbting yourself as this person turned out to be totaly different to how you saw him...dont feel bad for that...im sure we have al misjudge people at some time in our lives...i know i have..and not just once!.
you felt you needed to take your time..and you did the right thing..im sure youd have felt a lot worse if things had progresed into a relationship.
try not to let this affect future possible relationships...i know experiences like this steal away our faith in people.but you wil trust again...that special person will wait til your ready,instill trust in you.your grandparents were honourable good people..and they are not the only ones...its just that you came across a couple of bad people.you sound like a very level headed person and of that you should be proud

It happened years ago jo and yes it still had a long lasting effect, it took years to date someone, and the person i mentioned in my post was years ago again, I went back into my shell. I think this site is good too talk but I worry it's so easy to access, it may not be only victims on here, which is really scary.

Your right I would have felt a lot worse if things had progresed into a relationship. I couldn't bare for him to have been at all intimate with me, after what I know now, I fell asleep next to him on a couch, that makes me feel sick enough.

I know he's ill and still a person, and I do feel pity, but I just can't bare people hurting innocents, kids, animals, it just riles me.

level headed I'm not sure about that, you do though and thanks for taking the time to reply

OK...Don't get nervous...I'm a guy..sexually assualted.

Shy?

So am I!

The last thing I want is to scare you away. No one has commented. So, I get concerned.

I was assaulted in 1980! I can't get over it. I have very few male friends and have more female friends.

I have daughter and love her so much...it hurts!

So poor..yet, they are rich and see me as nothing important. Not even to my own child.

I'm glad you are actually commenting. I never thought of anyone who is abusive to be on this site?

But, what ever words they say would give them up.

I just hope that you understand that men get hurt, too. I guess we are rare!

But, every ounce of my being goes to helping women who have gone threw assault and rape for I, in my terrible pain, can have some insight?

An any insight I have goes to helping them in need.

Hope to see you on the sites.

Phil

thank you for replying, must have been really hard for you, life eh

It's not easy!

Good luck!

Phil