my 5yr old son was molested.

thank u for this forum and I hope I am posting this in the right section.

my 5yr old son was molested by a 9yr old girl. the girl is my moms boyfriends daughter. they spent a good bit of time together at both my moms house and mine. while at my house, my wife went in his room to check on them and found them under the covers, my sons pants were down. when she asked what was going on he told her that they were playing a nasty game called secret that the girl had showed him.. where they did "nasty things". he told us that she had touched him and had him touch her. the girl denied everything and wouldn't talk to my wife. after she was picked up and we were questioning my son, he told us that it was not the first time, and that she had also showed him pornographic videos on her computer at my moms house.

at my moms, the girl was questioned. turns out that she had been abused by an uncle when she stayed at her aunts house on multiple occasions. they are taking the proper steps with DCF to get her help and justice for the uncle.

we don't know what to do about my son. we explained to him that what they were doing was wrong and that the girl shouldn't have done these things. we also explained that the people in those videos were crazy and that's not the way guys and girls are suppose to act. Im not sure if we should take it any further? he acts as if nothing is wrong and it doesn't seem to be a big traumatic experience for him. should I go further and risk him remembering it all or let it rest and hope he forgets? I would really appreciate any help.

If you have talked it through with your son, and made it clear any time he wants to talk/ask questions that its fine with you, if he seems OK then I would leave it, and carry on as normal.
To keep bringing the subject up will not be helpful, it will only worry him.
Sounds like you have handled the situation well (under the circumstances)

after discussing with my wife, we sat down with his pediatrician to get her advice. she was very concerned, told us that we needed to take proper steps to avoid any future problems so she reported it to DCF. we thought that was a good idea. but...

today, without any notice a DCF agent went to my sons VPK school (which is a daycare) and sat down with him and one of the owners of the school to question him or whatever they do. this bothered me. we live in a very small town, everyone knows everyone and i would rather keep our family business as private as possible... why was this necessary?

he also came by our home later that day (which i have no problem with at all) and talked to my wife. i was at work all day so i didnt speak with him, but he told my wife that he needed to talk to me as well for whatever reason. i cant help but want to ask him if he's off his rocker for showing up at my kids daycare and questioning him in front of people i've known my whole life. idk, maybe i'm wrong but i'm kinda pissed.