someone please help me

I was raped 2 weeks ago to this day, i don't want to go into the details about it because they are too near for me. I just don't know what to do, i have a good friend that i really trust and has been there for me through all my other really hard times, it took me a while to open up to him, and now i have i regret it, i feel he now looks at me in a different way, i have tried saying this to him, but he said he doesnt although i dont see how he could not, i mean i know i am to blame and it is just the way i am that made this happen, but i tried to talk to him about it, and he keeps on saying that i should go to the police, and have an abortion as soon as i can. i just dont know what to do, i am only 17, i feel like im ruining my life.

Really Depressed-

Rape is an awful and traumatic experience, especially if you become pregnant as a result. I am so sorry that you had to go through that! I have been there and I know the pain, confusion, shame, and embarrassment that you are feeling. But I think that you should DEFINATLY go to the police. You don't want this person raping any one else do you? You don't want any other young girls having to go through the pain and agony that you are going through. It is a hard step, I know. But after you do it, you will be glad.

As far as the abortion goes, I don not believe in abortion personally. There are only two excetions for me, rape and severe drug abuse that will cause damage to the child. I really don't feel comfortable giving you advice on this topis, as it is your own choice to make. But being 17 years old, you have your whole life ahead of you. If not abortion, there is always adoption. There are so many people out there that want children and can't have them.

Being 17 years old. Unforunatly, your friend is probably not mature enough to handle what has happened to you. He might not know how to talk to you, or even what to say. That may be why he seems to be acting strangly. He doesn't want to say something to hurt you or make you mad, but he wants to be there. Have you thought about therapy? Have you told anyone else, besides your friend? Do you know the person that raped you?

Once again, I am soo sorry to hear that you are hurting and that you had to experience that. There are so many bad people in this world that hurt others for no reason. If you need to talk, feel free.
Stay strong! I will be thinking of you!

I'm terribly sorry that this has happened to you. I agree that goign to the police would be a good idea. I'm praying for you too.

About having an abortion. I don't think it's a good idea. It is your choice, but you're already experiencing a lot of emotional pain, and having an abortion can cause a whole lot more!! But adoption is always a good chioce, because I know that it could be hard to keep the baby. Not only should you tell the police, but you should probably think about counseling. I hope you can find the strength to make it throug this!

thank you for your reply, i dont really want to go through abortion at all, but im scared if i have the child i wont be able to give it up for adoption.
I havent told anyone else, i dont know who else to tell, and i ddnt know the person that attacked me. Surely now it is too late to go to the police?

It is never too late to go to the police. I was raped and didn't go to the police until months later, they still investigated it and found that this man had raped other girls as well. He is now in jail.

Honey you can still go to the police, it is not too late.

Hang in there honey, you are a strong person, never forget that...

Not only go to the police (it's NOT too late)...TALK WITH YOUR PARENTS. There is nothing you can say about yourself...how you live your life, etc. that indicates you deserved to be raped. There is a name on "rape"...this type of sexual assault, for a reason. To imply what it is and that it's wrong under any circumstance. I don't care if you prostitute yourself on a street corner...when sex is FORCED on you...it's rape. That's all there is too it. You don't deserve it for the way you live your life, the way you dress, who you date, etc. etc. etc. etc!!! You simply don't deserve to be raped.

If you feel you want to carry this baby to term, but don't feel you can raise this child.....you can feel assurred you'll find a loving home for your baby. If you feel you would keep this child if circumstances were different for you...I mean your age, schooling, money, etc. and not that this child was produced by a rape....talk w/ your parents.....sure...they might not have envisioned being grandparents when their daughter is 17...but I can assure you...if ever my daughter is raped (god forbid) and she asks for my help to keep/raise that child...she'd have my full support. Mind you she'd have it even if she was not raped...but you need to trust that your parents are not going to treat you as though you were out w/ a boyfriend having sex and not being careful and then came home and announced you were now pregnant! Even then.....for all parents say about how they'd react to it...when faced w/ it in reality....you'd be surprised at how they overcome that and deal well in the end.

I guess I'm trying to say you have options in regards to the baby if you are wondering about that.

As for the rest....seek help ASAP...both w/ police, your parents...well and counseling too.

My heart goes out to you.

i wish i could go to my parents, but i cant, even though i am 17, i am living in a foster placement because my mother repeatdly abused me. so i feel as though this has to be my fault, i mean once maybe but this is just too much, i am starting to think that matbe i should just live with the fact that i am going to be hurt again and again.
i wish i could find an answer, keep going back, if only i had of done things differently. now im alone in this and i dnt know what to do. i dont want to do this on my own, but i dnt know who to turn to

Have you had a pregnancy test done, or are you just assuming that you are pregnant? Your initial post was exactly two weeks after your rape. This is near the threshold of detection of a pregnancy with a home pregnancy test (blood tests give results sooner).

In terms of your friend I think you should give him the benefit of the doubt. He's probably doing the best he can, and this is probably overwhelming to him too. Be sure you tell him what your needs are, and ask him for what you want from him.

In terms of an abortion, that is a decision that you will need to think about and make for yourself.

Going to the police would be the best thing to do, but you will probably have to go through some additional pain right now in order to do that.

It's important that you get counseling both related to the rape and also the abuse by your mother's abuse.

was wondering whether anyone has been to the police in the past. if so could someone tell me what to expect??