Girlfriend abused as a kid.. and still being harassed

little update after the trip... and also kind of another shout for help because I see that the situation keeps being repeated...
Luckily she didnt get raped.. but she did get assaulted by him the first days ( after that she showed herself very mad against him and the family so he didn't try ).

She was explaining me earlier how her uncle got close to her and started rubbing her back. she said "she was ok with that" (that's the first part i don't understand, how she wouldn't just stand up and leave) . THAT WAS IN THE MIDDLE OF AN AIRPORT.

After that, he started rubbing her breast, and at first she flinched, but then,... she just didnt say anything. She didnt scream she says she "let it happen" and i know i cant blame her but part of me is really mad because... i feel like she coulda done smthing about it and didnt...

After a bit he tried to put her hand on his dick and then she took it away so he left ... but the whole idea and image of him being able to do all this while she isn't able to scream in a public place... scares me to death.

I don't know how to tell her that she needs to face him anymore.. she just won't do it.

She said she didnt scream because noone would believe her.. because her parents would get mad at her...

I don't know what else to do to get rid of this guy..

It's really difficult for someone to live in this kind of situation. You try to keep your sanity so you tell yourself that some stuff is normal or that you can live with it because you'd go insane otherwise. I can see why she wouldn't confront him when her own parents forced her to go on a trip with him and didn't care that he does this $#%^ to her. You just stop believing that it's possible to put an end to it after a while, or you tell yourself that "some day" you will be able to do it.
All you can do is try your very best to be supportive and convince her to get the hell away from her family.
This must be hell for you too, kasax.

Thanks for the reply Jasmin, theres a lot of sense in your words and it helps me to understand her a little bit more... It is being hell for me because I don't know what goes through her mind when she is able to let him rub her back or hug her without staying away.

I am trying to be very supportive, but sometimes when she tells me something happened I loose my mind and start questioning our relationship...

k,
She is doing ALL that she can do. jmho
1. She TOLD you.
2. She stood with you when you confronted her parents.
Her relationship with you, is that a relationship, so when her perv Uncle does something PLEASE don't be jealous....there is no compare.

This could be a situation that could change on her own desire to fight him. seems he is afraid is she fights him.
There is also the choice to turn him in. Even if she "might not think she is worth it because her OWN parents won't protect her.

You must really care about her to help like you have been. She told you she told someone and it was you.

I have told her many many times that he would stop the moment she faced him, but she doesn't dare to. She doesn't know how to say no to whatever he does to her and that's what hurts me at the same time.

I feel horrible for feeling jealous about that, but it's a feeling I can't control.

Like.. say your girlfriend is cheating on you (it has NOTHING to do with being abused but it helps me explain this). There's two feelings there. Jealousy and rage for the act that she does.

In my case i can't feel rage at all because i know she doesn't want it. I know she hates it. But the second feeling of jealousy stays with me even tho reasonably i KNOW that she is having a horrible time and doesn't want it. and because i know that it's wrong to be jealous about it i feel like $#%^.

k,
You have the human right to feel jealous. Remember the attention she gets from him is UNWANTED.

You could be her saving grace, valudation of her own rage,anger and fear, she needs to know that life is worth fighting for. My sis was abused first then he went for me. My sister did not fight, like I did. We both did the opposite. The whole time I would think " man, this guy is MARRIED to my MOM. The whole jeaulously thing is human.

She needs to be in another enviroment, to fight and heal. Anger and rage can be used as a great "fuel and tool to go and get healthy.
A therapist or support group that she would have access too would help.

I am glad you posted, it is great to hear ones mate looking for and try and help her.

Blessings to you and her,
red