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by **Butterfly Faerie** » Tue Jan 13, 2009 1:30 am

soundofsilence wrote:I started class today. There's a guy in my class that the back of him looks exactly like my rapist from behind. It sounds stupid but when he walked out of class it looked exactly like him walking out of the room after he raped me and it made me really scared. My next class gets out at 9 and it will be dark when I'm walking out to my car. The college isn't really known for the decent people that go there and I'm really nervous about it. I just feel like every guy is out to get me and that I won't make it back out to my car. I keep picking at my cut that I made last night because I'm thinking about it so much. There are a lot of people that were released from jail that go here because they take everyone, but it was financially the best option I had. I talked to my two close friends that were at the party and they knew the guy's name but didn't know who he came with or where he was from. I didn't tell them why I wanted to know, I just let them assume what they wanted I don't want them to be worried about me. I'm just not sure how I can calm down about this and just wanted to talk about it.

I can relate to that feeling, those triggers when someone looks like your abuser or attacker. When this happens in class even though it may be difficult is to remind yourself that this is not your attacker. It may be hard to do but it will probably help to acknowledge it. As for going to your car at night, can someone escort you ?

soundofsilence wrote:I started class today. There's a guy in my class that the back of him looks exactly like my rapist from behind. It sounds stupid but when he walked out of class it looked exactly like him walking out of the room after he raped me and it made me really scared. My next class gets out at 9 and it will be dark when I'm walking out to my car. The college isn't really known for the decent people that go there and I'm really nervous about it. I just feel like every guy is out to get me and that I won't make it back out to my car. I keep picking at my cut that I made last night because I'm thinking about it so much. There are a lot of people that were released from jail that go here because they take everyone, but it was financially the best option I had. I talked to my two close friends that were at the party and they knew the guy's name but didn't know who he came with or where he was from. I didn't tell them why I wanted to know, I just let them assume what they wanted I don't want them to be worried about me. I'm just not sure how I can calm down about this and just wanted to talk about it.

I can relate to that feeling, those triggers when someone looks like your abuser or attacker. When this happens in class even though it may be difficult is to remind yourself that this is not your attacker. It may be hard to do but it will probably help to acknowledge it. As for going to your car at night, can someone escort you ?

by **scarred_cutter** » Tue Jan 13, 2009 1:21 pm

I think thats a good idea so u can differenciate between them, but dont force the issue, only do it when you are ready

good luck

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