He was found not guilty

I feel so broken inside and betrayed by the system. What am I supposed to do now? The DIstrict Attorney lost my case. I just wanted that little bit of closure to this entire ordeal.

Rally, I'm so sorry that happened. Please know that it was not your fault, any more than your assault was your fault. Unfortunately we still have a long ways to go in terms of societal understanding of sexual assault. That is what was reflected in your verdict, not whether you were truthful or whether what he did was wrong. You are in the right, he is in the wrong, and society still has many remnants of the ancient belief that women are responsible for men's sexual response and behavior towards them.

That belief was never right, but it got started in the male-dominated societies of the past, in which women were not viewed as equals but as property of men, first by male members of the family and then by husbands. If a man was attracted to a women, it was because of the woman's behavior or her attire. It was her responsibility to avoid that. The men were not responsible, they were just following their natural instincts.

Of course that is a load of crap, and if you say this today, most people view themselves as being enlightened well beyond this, and that is mostly true. But the attitude still surfaces in some of their basic views, even though they are unconscious of it and maintain they are enlightened and supportive of women. You see this in the current movements to bring sexual assault to the forefront and not let it be swept under the rug. There is a backlash, you still hear people saying she didn't do enough to demonstrate that the advances were unwanted. This is a lame attempt to transfer responsibility for the man's action to the woman. It sounds like that happened in your case as well.

I know that feels like you were assaulted all over again, that the system works for the perpetrators and not for the survivors. No one would blame you for feeling angry and hurt and let down. But you have to stick to the truth as you know it, even in the face of Neanderthal-level thinking, as so many brave women have had to do.

I know it's small comfort, but there has been progress, it's just agonizingly slow. There will have to be many more injustices before those beliefs are rooted out. Each one draws attention to the problem, and over time attitudes do change. You are just way ahead of the curve. That's the place you want to be, and you shouldn't give in or give up. I'm just sorry you've had to suffer so much.

Avatar that is so good. yeah people think we have arrived.

When a DA office gets the resources to compete on a level playing field with every perp rather than just high profile media ones we will be there.

Rally, be proud of what you did, it takes so much guts. It will change and when it does it will be because of people like you.