Should I tell my ex boyfriend's parents that he raped me?

Back in November of 2016, he was my boyfriend at the time. I refused him sex so it literally held me down and forced himself on me. Of course, we broke up. I don't know what he told his parents, but I only told my dad what happened when I decided to press charges a little over a month ago. I was too confused to do it at the time. I thought it was impossible to be raped by your boyfriend. I know now that it's complete bull. In fact, the more that I think about it, the more I think he had been raping me our entire relationship. I never consented. Ever. I just gave up to the nonstop pressure. I thought they were the same thing, but everyone is telling me otherwise.

Anyways, all of the sudden he started texting me today. I told my dad that I wanted to go to the phone company to block his number, but he is actually a sexual assault investigator and he advised me not to incase I can get another confession out of him (I already have a screenshot of a text he sent me admitting he knew I was not consenting but that he "couldn't control" himself). He's texting me and asking me on dates and it's making me wonder if the investigator already talked to him and now he's trying to butter me up to drop the charges. Not gonna happen. I've been thinking about sending his father a message like "*** raped me and that's why we broke up, now tell him to stop texting me before I get a protective order." I don't want to reply to my rapist. In fact, I can't stop trembling when I see his contact "Rapist Piece of S***" pop up on my phone. His parents are going to find out anyways as the investigation moves on. What do you think?

Deep down I know I should ignore everything and let the courts handle it, but I'm so unbelievably angry. People have to know. Especially because everyone thinks he's a saint. He's not. He's a rapist.

Really sorry that happened to you, and that you have to deal with it now. I think your deep instincts and your dad's advice are correct, I would not respond or talk to his parents, just let the process play out.

His parents may take his side anyway once they find out, but it will be more substantial & believable coming from the authorities than from you. The only defenses for sexual assault are that it never happened, or was consensual. So one of those will likely be his story, unless he is honest and admits it. You should be prepared for this and not let it deter you. It's common for survivors to feel re-victimized when the offender denies everything, but that's the legal advice he will receive, so it's somewhat expected.

Most important thing is to be committed to what you know is true, and use that as a guide for your actions. Do what you know is right, and don't give him any more power. It's ok, and very justified, to be angry, but don't let that rule you. There will be consequences for him.