I need advice

im out of the abusive situation that I was in for two years but now im reliving it through flashbacks and its so stressful any idea

Dear Healing Angel, I'm glad to hear that you are out of the abusive situation you were in. I'm so sorry to hear about the flashbacks. Have you considered seeking therapy? Write back, Juliahh

Healing Angel wrote:im out of the abusive situation that I was in for two years but now im reliving it through flashbacks and its so stressful any idea

That's a normal feeling hun.
I know it's not a fun thing to deal with, it took me 8 long years to finally be able to get through my abusive relationship, and others who hurt me, and I did.

It's important that you talk to someone, that's the main thing even if you are not comfortable with it, because you wont be, and you'll hate it, but it's so very important.

Yes, im in therapy. In fact, I am currently living in a theraputic group home. I went to the movies with my family last night and my step dad took advantage of that....Im so lost at what to do. I told my therapist that I never want to see my parents again though.

Hi, Healing Angel. I'm sorry for what happened to you. If you don't feel safe, maybe you should stay away from your family or just your step dad for a while.
But I think that wanting to never see them again is normal and you should do what makes you feel comfortable and safe.

I am doing what makes me feel comfortable. I am staying away from him and im not talking to my mom because she don't believe me.

Good, I'm happy you're taking care of your self. I hope you feel better, and I'm sorry about your mom not beliving you.

I don't really care that my mom doesn't believe me anymore because Im almost 18 and I can't live my life trying to sugar coat everything just to make her happy. I need to start thinking about myself and my future. IF she still wants to be a part of my life, then she can. But if she doesn't its her own choice. Im just not gonna let her affect my future unless its for the better. Thanks for replying to my last post.

You are welcome, and I think you are right. Don't let them controll your life. If you can be independent, take charge of your future. It will be a struglle, but other people have done it, we just have to stay strong.

Thanks for replying to my post. I found out today that I am going to another foster family which is better than this group home. In the foster family, there is going to be no males in the house which makes me feel safe. I think my life is finally going to change for the better. I am so happy and I hope things really will get better. I am going to be turning 18 in 4 days which is when im leaving. Im gonna try to keep in contact with the people on this site just so you all can know how im doing. Hopefully I will prove to people that the past does not have to ruin your future. Its up to you, you either let the past control you and ruin the future, or you can learn from the past and create your future of success. I am now on the road to success thanks to friends...and my new mom. Thank you everybody on this site for helping me. I hope you all never lose hope and faith cuz God is watching over all of us. He'll never give us something that we can't handle. And remember, what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger.