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I've never posted in the forum, but i have a situtation that im not too sure how to take it.
A few summers ago, i took ambien (sleeping med.) and went to bed. Later in the night, i woke up to a guy overtop of me, obviosly having sex. All i remember being able to do was close my eyes and go back to sleep. I have faint memories of possibly letting him in. but otherwise, nothing. When i woke up, he was gone.
I called him the next day about what happened, and he kinda freaked out when i told him i dont remember it. He basically hung up and wouldnt return any calls since then.
Would this be considered rape?
Its been tearing me apart since it happened. I dont know who to talk to about it.

It can be when you are under the influence of something like the sleeping meds and he takes advantage of that.

If you didn't consent it is rape.

Consent implies that you knowingly and willfully agreed to engage in whatever you are doing. That said, there have been reports of people on Ambien engaging in all kinds of things that they have no conscious memory of. I'm sorry this guy won't speak to you, it must be really awful not to know what happened.

A few questions: have you stopped taking the Ambien, or let your doctor know what happened? How do you feel about what happened? A call to a rape crisis center might be very helpful to help you deal with your feelings, and decide what you need to do for yourself next. It doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks, if you are having trouble dealing with it, you should seek help for yourself.

it would be good to talk to him but it sux that you cant.. cause he could tell you WAT happened and stuff...

but yeah it sounds like he has taken advantage of you i mean who has sex with someone wen there asleep or close to it.. its a violation and can definately be considered a rape

i disagree that this was definately rape, but it certenly could have been. lots of people send and receive mixed signals (autist myself), you mention you let him in, what was the context of your relationship, did he viset ever before, or spend the night? he may have a predatory side which recognized an "oppertunity" or he might have mistaken your lack of protest and, albiet limeted consciousness as a form of consent. the way he reacted to you is the most unsettleing part about it to me, sounds fishy.
Ambian is freaky stuff it has been ascociated with all kinds of sleepwalking extremes, including suicide from non depressed non suicidal people. seems that in some cases it puts certin parts of the brain to sleep deeper then others. in such a state i could easly imagine someone misconstrueing someones actions as consious. However the way he reacted to you seems like he knew something was up.