Unique Issues Faced By Male Survivors

There isn't enough understanding for male victims or enough help and support. You've survived it, though, Arbie.

I know that I have survived and I have been lucky that my ordeal has no physical scars, only mental ones which I am sure with time will be like some of my physical scars and fade to almost non-existant...

I guess because I was young it didn't effect me as much as it may have if I was older and better understood the things that had taken part. I know too that those actions would have fractured my understanding and appreciation of many things of a more adult nature too. I struggled with physical issues during my teens mainly because I didn't know how to really talk to girls without feeling anxious and very nervous, I mean more than normal too have you ever known a young man to be scared by the forward advances of a young lady - so much so he ran from her?

It did affect you, I don't know how it would have affected you if you had been older. What happened is bad and there's no way to say that this abuse is worse or less bad than this other abuse.
Everyone has problems with sexuality and being with a partner if they've been abused, I'm glad you can look back on it and understand now.

I know that it did effect me and to be honest I have a feeling some of the effects are rather negative as I know I have some issues and problems with certain sexual activity, and I may even suffer some form of dysfunction because of the abuse suffered. I am unsure if the problems are mentally or physically rooted or even if they are abuse linked, and that does sometimes also make it difficult to completely understand the problem.

Thankfully I have had a couple of partners who were understanding and helpful or I still would have some rather serious issues with physical intimacy. I honestly cannot thank those ladies enough for their help and even though we have lost contact over the years they will always be important to me.

It's great that you had those ladies in your life. You'll work things out in therapy, with time, there is no rush.

I was so lucky in ways but unlucky in others I know that it got a bit too much for one of them and she had to say her goodbyes , she knows though that she was and is still very important to me. The other lady I ended up having to move about 2000kms away from and of course that kind of distance was very difficult to keep a relationship going and we drifted apart. I am sure she still thinks of me as I do her but I haven't heard from her at all since we drifted apart.

I am thankful too for my new friends in here because they understand things a lot better than my family and friends do, as many have been through similar experiences and had similar issues which means we can relate to each other.

You're a good addition to our little forum and I'm glad it's helping you.

Thanks Jasmin, I don't know what to say apart from the fact that my face is now as red as a fire engine....

Awwwwwwww LOL

I still can't believe how easily I am going red ...