Therapy makes me feel WORSE!

advice_seeker wrote:the T told me, among other things, that "getting into a healthy relationship with a man would help my self-esteem". I replied that I didn't know how to be in a healthy relationship otherwise I would have already been in one, and he said, "What??" clearly annoyed.

RED FLAG! Your T should know better than anyone that you have to love yourself FULLY before you learn to love others [effectively]. I think you would benefit from a new T, whose merits are more in order? I don't think it is appropriate to insist that a client need a relationship to repair their self esteem. Good luck!