Sex dreams

Lately I've been having dreams about having sex with my therapist. Really, really good, hot sex. He is not much older than me and I've caught myself paying extra attention to what I'm going to wear, which perfume to put on, etc. I'm trying to seduce him, but that's it. I would't date him ot anything like that but then, why am I doing that? I suppose the transference has kicked in. Do you think I should talk to him about this? I don't want him to end the therapy Does anybody else have similar experience? I feel really embarassed and guilty. Like I can choose what I'm going to dream about.

hi, i have experience of this and i know it sounds really difficult but best thing you can do is talk to him about it. i had the same fears - he'll reject me, he'll ask me to leave, it'll be just awful but honestly, they expect transference and it sometimes manifests like this and they are fine talking about it. my therapist made it really easy as i was so nervous and i was stumbling for words for about twenty minutes trying to describe this sex dream to him and it took me that long to tell him he was the person in the dream. i felt a lot of embarrassment talking about it but once i said it, it was such a relief and we talked about like any other dream we would talk about. it is really difficult but i would really say for me talking about the sex dreams involving my therapist really changed therapy for me, it made me think if i can talk about this, i can talk about anything. your therapist won't reject you or ask you to leave, they will be pleased you trust them enough to talk about something as intimate and vulnerable as this. transference is confusing as hell but from what i've experienced, it's also great fuel for making progress in therapy - best of luck with it. if you felt more comfortable, maybe you could email the therapist and tell him what you have said about the dreams and ask him if you can talk about this at the next session and bring the email with it if it helps. i did that first time, i emailed him and told him some of the detail and he said when i arrived that he got my email, do you want to talk about it ? that helped.

I can totally relate. I was crushing on my therapist pretty bad. Had dreams about her and would day dream about her. Made up all kind of phantasies (not fantasies) about her and her life. I knew my feelings weren't "real" per se. I worked it out on my own, but I wrote the following about her and tried to give it to her, but she made me read it out loud. I was sooooooo embarrassed.

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I tried to refuse, but she kept telling me it's ok, I can say anything and that I was safe there. My cheeks were flaming red when I read it out loud. She made a copy of it and kept it.