'love' your therapist??

Ok, so I went to inpatient therapy for attempted suicide/alcoholism/bulimia (I know, I'm messed up) and I had a counselor there who I really adored, and she adored me. After treatment we kept in contact and now speak/text almost daily. I love her, and she loves me, not romantically mind you, just like a mother daughter type thing. Anyway, I started seeing a psychotherapist after that, we connected, joked, laughed etc...I had her cell number, she drove me to my Dr appointments, we had lunch etc etc..and I truly love her, like a mother/friend/mentor...and she says she thinks of me as a daughter. I dont see her in a professional capacity anymore. Now, injust got out of a 5 year HORRIBLY abusive marriage, he tried to kill me, and I am seeing a psychotherapist through the Domestic violence program here. I like her a lot, and she seems to like me. I feel as though, this time around, it would be better and more productive to maintain a professional relationship, not friendly. I really want to work on my issues and think I need some distance to do that. Right? BUT, at the same time, I am becoming attached to her, and it almost bothers me that she is so 'cool' and not really friendly, though she is helpful. Does this make any sense?? I want her to like me, AND I want a therapeutic environment....why DOESN'T she like me as much as my previous therapists?? And WHY does that bother me?

Its called transference and counter transference my
Friend, probably to do with mother issues perhaps in your childhood?
There is an amount of transference needed for psychotherapy to work but counter transference (where the therapists personal feelings begin to be effected and they begin to feel things) is something they should be keeping a check on, your first two therapists I'm afraid were not professional.

Your new therapist sounds better and although she feels cold its actually the whole point to be a sort of mirror so you can work on the stuff in your head better, if you look at it as you want to deal with your problems and the professional relationship Is going to enable you to do that then it'll seem a bit easier, the fact that you want her to like you so much can give you an idea about your attachment style and how you can learn about that and deal With it, a good start would be to tell her what you're feeling, she will be completely used to that sort of thing so try not to be afraid!

What you're feeling is actually quite normal so don't feel bad