Sickly Mentally Abusive Father

My dad is also my neighbor *sigh* he follows me.

He tries to constantly intraject himself into my life in unhealthy ways.

He is also a severe diabetic, who is non compliant. He hasn't seen a real doctor in 7 years. Hes has had 4 ketoacidosis attacks within a 12 month time frame. (Life - Threatening, very hard on the body.)

He absolutely refuses to get any help.

His last attack was two weeks ago, I happen to be his only ride so I take the opportunity to tell him (for the 100th time) That he needs to get a doctor to see him asap. That hes putting stress on everyon that cares for him.

Of course he doesn't hear me. In fact, he had two hypoglycemic attacks sense, I know because he texts me to make sure I know. *eye roll* I ignore all of it...

What he wants is for me to take care of him. Just like his wife does. I have a family. Husband and kids. But this doesn't matter to him. He thinks he should come first. He's told me this many times. "Hes my father and I am obligated to care for him, and he should be first priority."

He also has what I assume is bipolar disorder. Explosive anger, crying, depression coupled with epsiodes of unrealistic blissful mania. His whole world view is quite twisted, narcassistic, and isn't very rational.

All I can do is place boundries. Aside from what I feel to be family support (picking him up if his car broke down) or family casual (Christmas at grandmaws). I usually ignore him. Its probably more than I should do considering how toxic he is.

My dad use to not be this way. He had good jobs, saw his doctors, was capable of being normal. He was always a narcissistic jerk but.. not like this. It was tolerable enough to have a healthy casual relationship.

He got into meth 7 years ago (hes clean now) and let his diabetes go. Now hes not the same. He never will be I don't imagine. Unchecked diabetes can cause dementia too.

Seems alot of these mental issues stem from health issues. Its not an excuse tho.

Still. Ive done everything I can to try to get him to a doctor because of this. I've taken time off work, time away from my family, blows to my mental health. I'm done, and have been for awhile now.

In fact, things have been great because of that, but now..

.. I don't know.

He is going downhill and I dont know what to do. Every ketoacidosis attack makes his mental and physical state worse.

I worry if he dies, Ill regret being cold to him. Even tho Im pretty sure some part of why he doesn't get help, is for my attention.

I've been having a hard time coming to terms with what I should do at this point...