Fustrated

Anyone ever feel like they're carrying a load of weight on their shoulders that nothing or no-one can help with?
I'm sick of being told my problems are too much for 'friends' and family to handle. Same old anger at people who mess up our lives, then we're the ones who get shunned for being unwell, different or anxious etc.
Don't know what I want to hear, guess just that I'm not the only one who feels like this and how other people handle the loneliness of it all...

I'm sorry to hear you are feeling like that. I can certainly relate. It sucks.

The few friends that I have told of some of my problems have shunned me also so now I'm always cautious not to say too much. It seems unfair that it is our burden to bear when it is others who have caused our problems by abusing us (well that's the problem in my case anyway)...

I find my therapist helpful. I can talk to him about things over and over again and he never seems to tire of listening. I like having someone there for me like that.

The people here are helpful to listen also. There is always someone here listening. I like that. It makes the loneliness in the real world much more bearable.

I hear you. It's a hard place to be in. I have no answers for you, but what you said really resonates.

The loneliness is hard to handle because it feels like it's never going to pass. Healthy people are able to easily take reasonable risks, but for someone whose been hurt and rejected from taking risks, it's easy to shy away and stop trying to make a connection. A catch-22.

Salted, I've had the same experience so now I know not to tell anyone details of what's going on in my mind. It's the same problem in my case as it is in yours.
I have seen a couple of therapists, but none have really been able to help me. They've all either treated me like a child or patronized me in some way, or just made the problems worse. Seems like no amount of training can prepare people to hear the sorts of that have happened..
I agree, this website does help a lot. I find a lot of comfort in people confirming I'm not totally mad

Ladyswan, I totally agree. People are able to listen to everyday problems and help people, but when it's something too hard for even your brain to handle, other people can't listen to it either. I have a split where half of me finds it understandable, and the other half of me gets fustrated that people I want to listen don't care enough to try.
Vicious circle!

carpediem46 wrote:Salted, I've had the same experience so now I know not to tell anyone details of what's going on in my mind. It's the same problem in my case as it is in yours.
I have seen a couple of therapists, but none have really been able to help me. They've all either treated me like a child or patronized me in some way, or just made the problems worse. Seems like no amount of training can prepare people to hear the sorts of that have happened..
I agree, this website does help a lot. I find a lot of comfort in people confirming I'm not totally mad

Ladyswan, I totally agree. People are able to listen to everyday problems and help people, but when it's something too hard for even your brain to handle, other people can't listen to it either. I have a split where half of me finds it understandable, and the other half of me gets fustrated that people I want to listen don't care enough to try.
Vicious circle!

For me, it's more like a combination of dread/sadness/anger that's almost palpable.. Friends and family all know that somethings bothering me, and usually know why... but they don't really get it. They CAN'T understand how little things bring up big memories associated with my past. It's not much comfort, but I try and keep in mind that folks around me can't know what to say or how to help.

I have the same thing.. the smallest of things can trigger huge, horrible memories for me and people might hear me say why but don't fully want to understand..
I hear you it's not so much I don't understand why people won't help, it's more the fustration of not being able to have anyone understand properly how I'm feeling, which is obviously not possible but fustrating none the less!

carpediem46 wrote:I have the same thing.. the smallest of things can trigger huge, horrible memories for me and people might hear me say why but don't fully want to understand..
I hear you it's not so much I don't understand why people won't help, it's more the fustration of not being able to have anyone understand properly how I'm feeling, which is obviously not possible but fustrating none the less!

I don't know if it's possible for one person to COMPLETELY understand another person, but close is usually good enough . lol with PTSD having contact with others who have the same problem is very helpful. Its common to act out in ways that we're unaware of, but others notice right away. it can be confusing and alienating, but understanding is the key. your loved ones CAN help if they're properly informed/educated, but seeing a counselor/therapist who's qualified to treat ptsd is a good idea.