Flashbacks

hi there, I am new to this forum. I am here because I have PTSD from an abusive relationship with my ex boyfriend. The abuse lasted just a short time, six months, but the effects have been to this day. Last night I had another flashback when I was with my husband, with whom I have been with for 13 years (the abuse was the year before i met him, so 14 years ago). Anyway he was coming toward me and I kept saying no over and over again. I thought it was my abuser. Luckily my husband is very supportive but I feel terrible that I can't get over what happened to me despite YEARS of counselling (still going).

Any advice?

Welcome to the forum. I'm not sure what to say on advice but.. Don't ever feel bad for how you feel. Some things we may never get over and that's ok. I have a lot of flashbacks too where it's someone else in the abusers place. Those are the worst.

Hey there.
I think that when those old memories come creeping in, it can be an opportunity to put those skills you learned in therapy to use. Remind yourself of what you have learned. Those flashbacks are not real. You are not in danger. Sometimes the only way we really know our strength is by really using our muscles.
So I suggest that you flex your "Mental Muscles". Sit down and reflect on how far you have come. What have you learned from therapy? How has it helped you? Think back on the person you were those many years ago, and compare her with you now. Feel the growth you have made.
It is good to remind ourselves of how far we have come, the mountains we have climbed. You might find that those flashbacks might not show up as much once you have given yourself a much deserved pat on the back.