This exprience destroyed my life

Hello Friends ,

While in Toronto, I used to greet a guy who was apparently very nice and helpful ...particularly becasue he helped me moved in in where I live ..

Any way this guy told me that he is a professional gangsters and I did not take this information seriously ...

Until one night the Police came suddenly in where I was living and arrest me under the charge of hidding information about a gangster .....the arrest was the first Trauma .

I told them I just moved here I do not know this guy I thought that he alleged this fact because he wants me to feel that he is very impressive ,,,

they sent me to the Jail for seven consecutive days becasue the court was closed for holydays .....Jail the second Trauma .

they Free me under the condition of staying 2 months away from where I live because they beleive that there is a relations between me and him....this is another Trauma .

Gotta love those ganstas.

This BS , they should've done a more complete background check on you. did he tell them this? Is he using you for an aliby?

You could've sued them for harrassment, if this was a false alication

ddeehopes wrote:Gotta love those ganstas.

This BS , they should've done a more complete background check on you. did he tell them this? Is he using you for an aliby?

You could've sued them for harrassment, if this was a false alication

Well, the point is not here .......after this accident ...I became totally depressed and lost the ability to study or to concetrate .....I am a respected individual and i do not know the kind of arrests

I moved thenafter from Toronto to another University and the fact that my life has changed still clear and obvious ....my marks went down sharply I failed two courses because I was n ot able to study due to my outrage to my haterd to this life .......I am still looking to my self as a Hero that I passed through this dilemma .

Certainly, it is the worst nightmare I have ever had in my life ....

My Question is ;

Is the degredation in my study in my concentration and in all my scholastic skills reasonable ......and how can I overcome this situation which changed my life

Best Regards

Well, I'll tell you what I'm doing that is working, but has taken longer than I wanted, but good things take time,

I totally got into learning, I spent 5 years self teaching myself computers, studying theology now, and want to go back to school, again.

I've been three times , but am ready now. I want to work in forensics.

The most important part is to keep busy and keep bettering yourself. Sadgurl has some material at the top of this forum I believe that might help you.

You did not deserve whatever you endured. You didn’t cause it even if other people blame you for it. It is normal to be affected by trauma, and you deserve to recover, no matter what you did or didn't do, saw, or didn't see.

You must also remember it is over!!! Even tho it feels like it just happened. It didn't., it's over. And you survived. You are strong,
and better than those that hurt you. Never the less, the fear will stay with you for awhile, you have to recognize it, and then when it comes on, rationalize it, realize it, overcome it, and do the best you can do for the moment, then move away from it as soon as possible.

Bad things happen to good people. And the more anxiety we have to begin, and the sensitive we are , the worse the trauma. We feared dying. We feared the fear.

But YOU ARE A SURVIVOR>

ddeehopes wrote:Well, I'll tell you what I'm doing that is working, but has taken longer than I wanted, but good things take time,

I totally got into learning, I spent 5 years self teaching myself computers, studying theology now, and want to go back to school, again.

I've been three times , but am ready now. I want to work in forensics.

The most important part is to keep busy and keep bettering yourself. Sadgurl has some material at the top of this forum I believe that might help you.

You did not deserve whatever you endured. You didn’t cause it even if other people blame you for it. It is normal to be affected by trauma, and you deserve to recover, no matter what you did or didn't do, saw, or didn't see.

You must also remember it is over!!! Even tho it feels like it just happened. It didn't., it's over. And you survived. You are strong,
and better than those that hurt you. Never the less, the fear will stay with you for awhile, you have to recognize it, and then when it comes on, rationalize it, realize it, overcome it, and do the best you can do for the moment, then move away from it as soon as possible.

Bad things happen to good people. And the more anxiety we have to begin, and the sensitive we are , the worse the trauma. We feared dying. We feared the fear.

But YOU ARE A SURVIVOR>

Dear ddeehopes,

you are awsome ......may be you do not know that I am living away from my family who are overseas ...your words make me feel better I will keep going eventhough I am distress But this is the life we have to be stronger and stronger ....

Again, I highly appreciate your constant contributions ,

Much Love ,

I hang on to the thought, "What doesn't kill us makes us stronger",

And "God doesn't give us more than we can handle."

I have to be strong. do I have a choice?? NO.

I could give in to it, but then I am letting myself be a victim again, not a survivor.

Cross over here and become a survivor with us.

Waves across the pond. ^^^^^^^


( if I could go back and change my life would I? No, then I wouldn't be who I am today, and wouldn't be where I am today, and wouldn't know what I know today. )

We didn't want to die, we wanted to live, that is why we survivored. So LIVE!!!!! Don't let this speedbump slow you down.
Live , live , live and learn along the way.

ddeehopes wrote:I hang on to the thought, "What doesn't kill us makes us stronger",

And "God doesn't give us more than we can handle."

I have to be strong. do I have a choice?? NO.

I could give in to it, but then I am letting myself be a victim again, not a survivor.

Cross over here and become a survivor with us.

Waves across the pond. ^^^^^^^


( if I could go back and change my life would I? No, then I wouldn't be who I am today, and wouldn't be where I am today, and wouldn't know what I know today. )

We didn't want to die, we wanted to live, that is why we survivored. So LIVE!!!!! Don't let this speedbump slow you down.
Live , live , live and learn along the way.

I give you a pledge to be a survivor ...YEs I wanna be a survivor why not !!!!

I came out from very bad situations But I wanna be a survivor .

Dear optimistic4ever,

I was flabbergasted when I read your post. I reside in New England and had always assumed Canada to be fair and impartial in terms of meting out criminal justice. I did not realise that someone could be imprisoned based upon guilt by a rather loose association. Have you considered consulting with a civil rights attorney in Toronto about this situation? You should not lose access to your residence and incur a criminal record because of this horrible situation. My thoughts are with you.