Drugged by Husband

When I was approximately five months pregnant my husband slipped sleeping pills into my drink so that he could have time to talk to his mistress on-line uninterrupted. He admitted this to me less than a month later and we will be divorced in a couple of weeks.

Though I have received a lot of support for sexual and emotion betrayal, divorce and being a single mom, I haven't heard of one other instance where something like this has happened. The closest thing I can think of is what a victim of munchausen by proxy might feel, except that to my knowledge it wasn't recurring and it wasn't designed to make me sick and attract attention to himself.

What I do know is that now, almost a year later, I still think of it when I watch a man pour a drink in person or on television. Twice I have suspected him of doing it again and later felt that it was just paranoia. The betrayal and manipulation I experienced is difficult to wrap my head around. How do I describe this behavior/help needed?

My mom drugged my dad, she said she "had to" that he was mentally unstable, so gave him psychiatric drugs she somehow got her hands on. That wasn't the only thing she did without him knowing. They're still together, she said she broke him.

What I do know is that now, almost a year later, I still think of it when I watch a man pour a drink in person or on television. Twice I have suspected him of doing it again and later felt that it was just paranoia. The betrayal and manipulation I experienced is difficult to wrap my head around. How do I describe this behavior/help needed?

I understand, it sounds like PSTD. I think you described his behaviour well, betrayal, manipulative, willing to harm another to get one's way, etc. I'm glad your getting a divorce, my parent's never did, I always scratched my head about that. It's really awful what he did to you and your baby.

Thanks for the support. It's helpful to hear from people who don't have the bias of knowing him in a negative or positive context.

Did your dad ever find out?

I am glad you posted here hon. I stand by what I said in your other thread too.

If I can help at all please shout me

Cracked

patientpanic wrote:When I was approximately five months pregnant my husband slipped sleeping pills into my drink so that he could have time to talk to his mistress on-line uninterrupted. He admitted this to me less than a month later and we will be divorced in a couple of weeks.

Though I have received a lot of support for sexual and emotion betrayal, divorce and being a single mom, I haven't heard of one other instance where something like this has happened. The closest thing I can think of is what a victim of munchausen by proxy might feel, except that to my knowledge it wasn't recurring and it wasn't designed to make me sick and attract attention to himself.

What I do know is that now, almost a year later, I still think of it when I watch a man pour a drink in person or on television. Twice I have suspected him of doing it again and later felt that it was just paranoia. The betrayal and manipulation I experienced is difficult to wrap my head around. How do I describe this behavior/help needed?

He did it when you were pregnant. What a plonker. Just want you to know you're not alone and I hope you get the right kind of support here and irl.

mystic

EDIT: Sorry he's not just a plonker for doing it while you were pregnant but a plonker full stop. Hop you find the happiness you deserve.

mystic