by TeeCee » Sat Oct 27, 2018 9:56 pm
I have a question about a really old story...A husband and wife in the 5th of their 10 year marriage, were standing in the kitchen having what was becoming an old argument. It was nothing extraordinary, just a dispute about the how long the sprinklers should run. The wife was concerned because three months prior, the husband had scheduled the sprinklers to run for one hour, in each zone of their 2 acre property. While the wife was (again) explaining why each zone should only run for 15- 20 minutes, the husband was becoming increasingly agitated over her "correction" of his decision. The wife was also becoming more irritated. This was now the third month in a row she was trying to explain to him that the sod could only hold so much water and the overflow was just running down the street.The husband's refusal to, what he called, "give in to her" and adjust the timers had also resulted in water bills totaling $1300, for the past two months. The couple's debate was now turning into a yelling match, as their frustration increased. Their four year old daughter, who had been playing in her room called out from down the long hall, "Why are you fighting?" The couple were silenced for a few seconds, when suddenly the husband turned towards the voice down the hall and yelled, "Because your mother is a @@@@@@@!" The wife, having never heard her husband use that word, certainly not in reference to her, took three steps toward her husband, who was still facing towards the young voice down the long hallway. With tears stinging her eyes, she raised her hand and slapped the side of his face, from behind. She then went down the hallway and into her daughter's room. After a few minutes, the wife and the 4 year old exited the little girl's bedroom and the two left the house. The couple remained married for another 5 years. While there was never another incident like the one in their 5th year, unfortunately, there were other love changing incidences; throwing out the wife's mail, magazines, packages everyday, having prostitutes delivered to the home while the wife and children were gone (the wife didn't know this was going on for a long time), he was emptying out their bank accounts and claiming they had no money, and on and on. The wife engaged a marriage therapist that they saw every Monday for a year, but the husband refused to stop his behavior, which led the wife to file for divorce in their 10th year. He fought the divorce for two years, and would break into the house when she was gone, he would hang around outside the house in the dark and scare them, but the day came when it was all final! Now 14 years after the finalization of their divorce, and the demise of the husbands second marriage, the husband has launched a "public" campaign claiming that his 1st ex-wife verbally and physically abused him. His only example is the day 18 years ago, when he called her that filthy name, and she slapped him for it. So with the details that you have (and they are the only details), do you think he is right to say that his first wife was verbally and physically abusive? It doesn't seem consistent to me that she was abusive, but I wondered what you all thought! Thanks for giving your time to this!! TC