Hi TJ,
It's SO good to have news about you.
I am really glad to know you all are doing fine. You did such a hard work!
Not long ago I run into a "What is abuse?" article and posted it:
What is abuseI thought so much about you and your kids, and hoped you all were alright.
trombonejazz wrote:I've asked him to go to individual counseling, but so far he is refusing. He says he knows in his heart that he has changed, but I'm nervous about just believing him without him doing something "real" to prove that he has changed.
Oh, gosh. This is tough. Are you going to some counseling? I think 4 months is not nearly enough time for someone to change his violent behavior specially if he hasn't done some "real" work. Be careful, I would strongly suggest you supporting yourself on a therapist to discuss this decision.
How could he really showed he has changed? Remember that your lives where in danger, and leaving was so tough. And that many times doubt and him blaming you, made your decision so much tougher.
trombonejazz wrote:Right now, I'm looking for a job (a career job), but I haven't worked for 4 years so I'm hoping an engineering company will give me another chance. We will see.
I'm really happy to read this. Look for great opportunities, and for sure you will have another, many chances in engineering companies.
You are a very strong and brave woman TJ. I feel very happy for you and your kids.
trombonejazz wrote:I hope you are well
I am doing very well, your news bring lots of joy to me.
trombonejazz wrote:I don't even know if you will get this!
I did get it.
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Taking myself some time away from PF. Sea (Dec, 2016)