A Psychologist's View on Passive Aggressive Personality

Holy macaroni. That kinda sounds like me O: haha. I'm probably oversympathizing.

So what would happen if someone with HP traits and someone with PA traits were dating? Would you care to elaborate on how the two "complement" each other? I would be grateful for any reply.

Thank you for your response OK. I have been seeing someone with PA traits for the past year and I have HP traits. I only discovered my HP traits about six to eight months ago. I only discovered his reactions to me were PA traits about two months ago. I am unsure if he was aware or not and I told him that he had them and explained each reason why I thought he had them and also sent him a link to a website of people that were hurt by people with PA traits. I think this was a huge mistake, but I just got so excited that I finally understood why we seemed to be in a pattern and thought that it would fix it. I mean, I finally understood! I also wished that someone would have told me about myself a long time ago and thought that it was best that I told him in case he was unaware. I should have realized that that was a bad idea. Anyways, our pattern was that he would show me that he cared which should have been good enough, but when I started to think in my HP way I would freak out because he didn't verbalize that he cared so I would send long emotional letters, which would freak him out in return and cause him to give the silent treatment until he thought I would not talk about such feelings and emotions. This happened several times until I saw the pattern. I am an aware HP and believe myself to have a milder case, being much worse in relationships with men than everyday life. I don't cheat in serious relationships because I watched my mother do it to my father in my youth. I'm not sure if he will ever speak to me again at this time, but I want to be with him. I already know and feel comfortable with him. I have strong feelings for him. I do not want to give up on him as so many have given up on me in the past. If anything I feel even closer to him knowing that he has real issues of his own that he is battling on the inside just like I do. He has taught me so much about myself and I can see my reactions to things much clearer since I get the silent treatment and I know that I had overstepped some boundary in acting that way. I don't think in a normal (for lack of better word) relationship I would have been able to see things as clearly. He has also helped with my abandonment issues because of the silent treatment. I understand that sometimes people leave and that I have no control over that. It’s not nearly as scary as I always thought and my reactions to being abandoned or fear of abandonment have gotten better because of him. The silent treatment does kill me, but I never understood before the whys to it as I do now. So what is the PA thinking when you tell them they have PA behaviors? I guess part of me thinks that if we can get through these harsh discoveries that we can get through much more of life’s ups and downs, but there is a good chance that he will never speak to me again. Anyone?! Feel free to be completely and utterly honest, it will be much appreciated.
Thanks
Jean

Thank you for the information. It's been very helpful.