Uninterested in child

[van4ssa]

I have a young child who actually is a pretty decent kid, minus the angry outbursts and difficult behavior. The problem is, I'm really not interested in him. I don't like spending time with him. He's annoying, and needy. Some days, I cannot even feign concern, and I ignore him.

Despite my disinterest, I don't wish to screw him up. I want him to grow up into a normal person. I do love him, and realize it's unfair that he has me as a mother.

What steps can I take to be a better parent?

[Onebravegirl]

Hi there.
Could this have anything to do with how you were parented? I ask because sometimes it can be connected to how we view our own role as parents.
It might help to think about that a bit. Ask yourself questions about what you wish you had an ideal parent. What did you want as a kid?
Then try and view your child as an opportunity to give him/her what you didnt have.
In todays world the pressures are enormous on parents. Sometimes it can feel like parenting is more of a job than a privilege. But the more you can try to personalize your connection to your child the more it is likely that you will find reasons to connect.
I hope something I said can be of help. The fact that you are aware of this is a great beginning to understanding how to improve the situation.
Best wishes,
One

[cybergenesis]

You need to get support. See a social worker, get references, go to self help/ parenting groups. If you truly in the long term are disinterested in the child they may be better off in another home, however, just being in a bad mood one day and not feeling like giving him attention doesn't mean you are a monster. But do seek some help.

[Cate68]

A lot of times what I do with my son is to ask him questions about what he is doing. If my son watches one of his movies over and over, it is a bit dull, but I sit nearby to him and smile and "play" on the phone.

On weekends, I try to take my son to the Zoo or a movie.

That's how I do it.