My toddler

[Seakingbalance]

I feel so bad and guilty about this but I need to let it out. I've never been around toddlers but my kid Idk... He really stresses me out. He never shuts up! He never wants to play with his toys. He'd rather sit and stare at me. I need quiet time sometimes. He whines a lot doesn't listen worth $#%^. I swear it's like he ###$ with me when I tell him to be quiet daddy's watching tv (daddy's sick and I try to distress things for him). My nerves r shot. Am I crazy. Is it me? It's momma momma every 2secs then I tell him to go play read 2secs later momma momma. Don't get me wrong my son saved my life. The path I was going on was bad. But there's GOT to be a solution to this! HELP ME BEFORE I PULL ALL MY HAIR OUT

[jilkens]

Toddlers are very energetic and into everything. Each kid is their own person so it's hard to compare two children.

My daughter is into everything as well and I gave up on buying her pretty toys. She'd much rather play with boxes of various sizes, or create a drum set out of my pots & pans. I believe the store-bought toys lack imaginative potential and therefore do not retain her attention.

At this age they will make lots of noise, have short attention spans, and seemingly defy everything you ask them to. You are still their entire life, their most favourite person in the world. That means you're also their preferred playmate and each new experience is something they want to share. Take a deep breath, smile, interact with your child for a little while, and then take some time for yourself. I find that if I direct my daughter into an activity such as colouring she will keep doing it on her own for a while if I start it off with her.

If you have friends or relatives that are able to take your son for a few hours it would be worth giving them a call. It sounds like you and your husband could use a good rest. You don't sound crazy but you do sound overwhelmed.

[Seakingbalance]

I am overwhelmed. My bf is sick a lot and I try to keep him comfortable. I haven't had someone watch my son overnight since before Christmas. The only one that watches him is my mom. I have no help other than that.

[jilkens]

My friend is in a somewhat same situation, except she has 3 children. Her husband always has a headache when he's home from work and leaves her to deal with absolutely everything on her own. He also demands that the house be silent while he naps or watches his movies. I'm going to tell you the same thing I've told her over and over again - he's an adult, he's expected to pull his share of weight. At the very least he should expect no special treatment because you're already dealing with a demanding child. Toddlers are noisy by nature and if he can't deal with it he should get some earplugs. Watching TV is not necessary to your boyfriend's health but what you child is doing is considered normal and shouldn't be discouraged.

I realize this isn't what you wanted to hear, but you have to think of yourself too hun. Take care of yourself & your child, and let your boyfriend tend to himself. If he was living on his own he'd be expected to do so.

I have nobody to watch my child at all and she's never left my side while I'm at home. It does get overwhelming. When things start to pile up, I call my dad to come over and play with her while I do chores. Little bits of help like that work out and it makes my daughter happy to have someone visit with her. Maybe you could arrange for something similar and use the time for a nap or to take care of yourself. You can get through this.

[Seakingbalance]

U got it wrong I do I'm the one spazing out trying to get some peace and quiet. There r times my. BF is SO sick he don't get up unless he going to the bathroom. Still he don't ever say anything about seven. Idk I can't get him to do anything without him 2secs later he wants something else. I feel horrible. I love him more than life itself but darn what's a mom to do to be able to hear my own thoughts?

[jilkens]

Well, at this point you have to make an evaluation. What resources do you have? Family, friends, agencies? What services can they provide?

Make use of them. Expand your support network. Be willing to ask for help. There is no shame in doing so.

[Tempest88]

Some children are much more clingy than others. Toddlers are horrible little creatures, just horrible! I raised two of the beasts.

There's not much you can do, just meet all his basics needs. Do your best to play and interact with him. There's nothing you can do about the noise, that you just have to deal with. You'll eventually get good at blocking him out

Look into finding a safe place he can spend one night a week, a reputable babysitter who have extensive references, or friends or family, or even just one day a week if you can't arrange over nighters... so you can get some you time.

The toddler and preschooler stages are very demanding and exhausting. How old is he? I found 3 and 5 years old were the worst.

[Seakingbalance]

Hell be 4 in July. He goes to preschool but idk he makes up for it in the afternoons hahahahaha. Thanks everyone.

[MartianRobotGirl]

You're not crazy. I think the majorty of parents have been over worked.
My daughter is 19 months old, and she's a lot of work.
She always wants my attention and I have always got to watch her to make sure she's not getting into something she's not supposed to.
If you know anyone like your partner or a family member who can asist when you need some down time, that would be good.
If not try putting him in a safe area with toys, and let him learn to play indipendently for a bit each dday. Make sure you are within ear shot, but let him cry a little. YOu can try just a few minutes at first, and extend the time by a few minutes each day.
Good luck momma.