*trigger* Any parents have sexual urges towards their kids?

[gmp]

Hey.

I'm in a difficult situation.

I'm a clinical pedophile, meaning that I have sexual urges towards children. Although these are not under my control, my actions obviously are.

The thing is... One day, I'd kinda like to get married and have kids of my own. And specifically, I'd like not to hurt them.

I don't know that I could, but I want to if I can.

So to be direct: Do parents have sexual thoughts about their children? If not when they're very small, then when they reach the physical age you're attracted too? (ie you begin to find their friends sexy)

Any advice would be appriciated

[Bettyboop]

I'm very sure some parents do feel like this. Although its hard for them to admit.

I am not a pedophile so I cannot fully understand your problem. However, Have you had therapy for these thoughts? If you worked through/ explored some of them then you be in a better position to know if having children was something you could cope with.

[Tempest88]

So to be direct: Do parents have sexual thoughts about their children?

I've never had any sexual thoughts about either of my two Children, or any Children for that matter... or Teenagers.

If not when they're very small, then when they reach the physical age you're attracted too? (ie you begin to find their friends sexy)

Mine are not Teenagers yet, but being as I'm not attracted to Children of any age, I doubt anything is going to drastically change. I had a 'friend' though, he was odd towards his Teenage Daughter, he'd pat her in ways just seemed inappropriate and she would try to move away. He flirted with her friends as well. I confronted him about it and he denied it... (last time I spoke to him). So some people do have inappropriate thoughts/actions towards their Children.

You need to get professional help, seriously... before ever considering having Children. As long as you're having those thoughts... you probably shouldn't ever have Children.

Putting Children in front of a pedophile would be like putting coke in front of a drug addict and telling them not to touch it. Not a good idea.

[realmofsoftdelusions]

I agree that you need professional help, and not to be pessimistic but I doubt it's a good idea for you to have kids, probably ever, but I'm not a doctor or a therapist. Which is who you should really be asking btw

[kehussy]

I'm a father to two beautiful daughters and a son. I don't have any sexual feelings for them. And I don't even think that I'm going to have once when they grow up.

If you are having sexual urges towards kids then I'd strongly suggest you to visit a therapist. They are experts who will help you to overcome pedophilia.

[CruzingLily]

I agree that seeing a therapist would be in your best interest,
And also, I would not have kids if I were you, for their safety and for yours.

My daughter is nearly two and I have never had any sexual urges towards her. I don't have any sexual urges towards children at all, really, and even when my daughter becomes a teenager I will still not have any sexual urges towards her at all probably. I would try to look at things through her point of view, if mommy had sexual feelings towards me, I would know that is wrong. She is my daughter, not my lover.

[cybergenesis]

Most mentally healthy parents either do not have any significant sexual urges towards their children or never have any urges. Please do not have children.