Boarding school?

[bobbiesoxer]

My 14 year old younger brother has been getting into a lot of trouble lately. He's been hanging with the wrong crowd and is being influenced by his friends to do "experimental" things, like drinking and smoking pot. Quite frankly, my parents are sick of this and are thinking of sending him off to boarding school.

However, I feel that this may be a bit extreme. I want to seek out other parents advice, and this place seemed like a good place to start. How do you feel about all-boys boarding school? Do you feel that they are generally safer from peer pressure and negative influences than public schools?

Watch the video for St. Andrew's College.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-1eDFLbuVxM

Do you think that by sending boys off to boarding school, they'll be able to remain more resiliant to negative influences?

[jasmin]

Bobbiesoxer, I'm not a parent, but wouldn't it all depend on what kind of friends he'll be making there? I don't see how they could plan all the people he'll meet in boarding school, in advance.

[time_manager]

You can't actually blame your parents Bobbie, although they might also try to talk to him on what the real problem is...in a calm manner, that is. Teens often feel misunderstood and are likely to go with whomever they find themselves welcomed.
But if things still go out of hand, you can try suggesting your parents to bring him to therapeutic boarding schools instead. It's not your usual boarding school that only teaches discipline, these specialized institutions cater to the needs that your brother might need. They can try and inquire if there are available therapeutic boarding schools in your area. Hope all goes well with your brother.

[radoxme]

I am 38 and English. ###$ boarding school and ###$ my parents. 30000 pounds a year of misery.
And when I could not take it being held in private hospital by law then sent back. Here we get sent for doing ###$ all wrong. ######6 nazi @@@@@@@.
I am totally socialist now. Maybe I should tell what Iknow to the Chinese!

[schoolbound]

I was in a similar situation, there are so many great schools out there for troubled students, I know that http://www.boardingschool360.com was very helpful, that had an extensive list of boarding schools for troubled teens.
Good luck!

[HesDeltanCaptain]

My only knowledge of boarding schools come from movies and Harry Potter movies I dunno then what real-world statistics are for them vs living at home and attending public/private schools. I would think though at 14 it'd be a major trauma that screws him up for life. If not from a culture that routinely does the boarding school thing, throwing a kid into that world and system is going to cause problems. And if he's already giving in to peer pressure trying drugs he's going to be exactly like that but without parental oversight as being away from the safety and security of home n hearth removes any self-control he may be exercising and he then acts out doing whatever's available to him there.

In the big scheme of things, it could be much worse than alcohol and pot. We've had more than a few Presidents into that and they turned out fine one might say heh (plus when parents drink or smoke or do drugs yet deny that to their children it becomes extra difficult coming down the mountain about it. If you don't want your children smoking, drinking, or trying drug ya better not be doing it yourself. Loose a lot of command authority if you're a hypocrite, and kids know what a hypocrite is even if they don't yet know the word.) If it's really a thing you feel the need to end, end it. You're the parents, he's the child. If you're all unclear on the relationship thing I suggest family counselling or a book about parents vs children. But hiding from your roles as parents and authority figures sending him off somewhere is more about you and your problems than his.