Boyfriend found out...

theRambler wrote:I honestly don't blame him. *mod edit* .

This is a support forum. Trolling is not welcome. If someone aimed the same criticisms at you for your 'defects' I'm sure their comments would not be welcome.

Rambler, your comment is highly offensive and uncalled for. If you have a problem with pedophiles and other minor attracted individuals, you have no business being in this section of the forums. Maybe you can tell us exactly what it is hallja did that was wrong. Has it occurred to you for a single second than demonize a man who's done nothing wrong, it would be in everyone's best interest to offer him the support he needs so that he's less likely to go out and offend?

theRambler

Your comments are totally unacceptable and highly offensive.

You have been banned

Cracked

Reading your private stuff was wrong. What you're into is wrong too, but if you're not acting on it you're allowed to have your thoughts and work through your issues. If it weren't for the fact that he's threatening to tell other people, this would be a good thing. You can't be with someone who can't stand by your side as you deal with all of this. And it's hard. A lot of people, probably most people, wouldn't be able to know this about their partner and deal with it.

You owe him money. Pay him back. He shouldn't have to threaten you to get it anyway. Just be honest with what you can do financially and get him squared away.

If he can't handle your truth, it's better you both learn this now before any more time is spent on this relationship.

I have similar issues. And my girlfriend is rather amazing at dealing with it. I'm not saying that to rub it in. I'm saying that so you know that there are people out there who can see you for who you are, love you, support you and help you deal with your journey.

Don't hate on him because he's not that guy for you. Don't hate on yourself because you have these desires. Just try to move on and remain strong.

And try not to let "other people" on here drag you down. We ALL have mental health problems or we wouldn't be here. You're no worse off than anyone else.

Be advice ever: Make good decisions.

That sucks that is happening to you and I am sorry that he found out that you are a pedophile. Yeah he is most likely trying to blackmail you and if you don't have anything illegal in your life then you don't have anything to worry about. Karma will hit him hard if he does try and do something like that

To me it doesn't sound like blackmail so much as 'I don't like what I've found out, I want nothing more to do with you so give me the money you owe me and get lost'. Unless he's made specific threats it's not blackmail. Just pay up, or (as suggested above) make it clear what you can pay and when and then stick to that timetable.

Partridge, he has said that if he does not repay him the money, he will expose hallja as a pedo/nepiophile to everyone. Tell me how that isn't blackmail.

That's not how I understand Hallja's post, Musicman.

He wrote "He is now demanding I pay him back but I don't have that kind of money. He isn't going to tell anyone I am a pedophile but am I legally obligated to pay him back now?"

I understand that Hallja is *not* concerned about the possibility that his ex-boyfriend might expose him as a paedophile.

I think Partridge's interpretation is right. It sounds like the reason the ex-boyfriend is asking to have the money back immediately is to have nothing to do with Hallja anymore. Hopefully, Hallja can ask him to be a bit more pragmatic.

hallja wrote:So I owe him like 1700 dollars because he helped me repair my truck a couple of times. He is now demanding I pay him back but I don't have that kind of money. He isn't going to tell anyone I am a pedophile but am I legally obligated to pay him back now?

Find someone that will respect your privacy, and who is more accepting.