Talking to a Therapist about pedophilia

Pig wrote:

bettertimes wrote:

noone wrote:Hello Everyone:

I am a male pedophile in my mid 20s who has never molested, hurt or done anything illegal with a kid, however as you must all understand it is very distressing to have these kind of thaughts. I have considered talking to a psycologist about it, but the prospect of being judged on a negative way or even being reported to the authorities really frightens me.

I would love to know from people who have experienced therapy (for pedophilia or other illegar paraphalias) how did it go? Did you feel acceptance or rejection? Has anyone ended up in legal truble for talking about it? Was ir helpful?

Also if people have knowledge on the topic of selecting a therapist or the potential legal consecuences would be great if you could shed some light on the topic.

I am in North America, so experiences from USA/Canada would be most helfull in my case (but I am sure there is people interested in this topic from other countries.

Thanks!

Hi,

if you're looking for information on how to find a good therapist you should take a look at this site: http://www.b4uact.org. It's an organization for minor attracted people and they focus on mental health care.

I have told several doctors, psychologists and psychiatrists about my pedophilia. They are not allowed to report you to anyone for having sexual fantasies and urges. There might be some of them that think they are required to, but they are wrong. And what should the authorities do, follow you everywhere you go?

And yes, it's been very helpful. They have not tried to "repent" me. They have just tried to help me feel better. As you might know there's not a cure for this. Having said that, it won't mean that you can't change, cause people can change, but in different ways. It's all about who you are, and the life you haved lived and wanna live. I hope you will find a therapist that know something about sexuality and stigma.

http://www.virped.org is much better because this organization is 100% against child molestation and abuse. They are NOT trying to legalize adult-child sex as b4uact does.

Pig wrote:It's possible that I'm wrong in that they're trying to legalize adult-child sex.

The freerepublic article can be misleading too.

But I'd only like to be a member of a group that is officially 100% against adult-child sex.

"We are not an organization for people who want to debate whether sex between children and adults should be legal. We are united in our belief that sexual activity between adults and children is a very bad idea." (http://www.virped.org/index.php/f-a-q-2nd-page --> Q7)

And http://www.virped.org/index.php/f-a-q-last-page --> Q15

noone wrote:Hello Everyone:

I am a male pedophile in my mid 20s who has never molested, hurt or done anything illegal with a kid, however as you must all understand it is very distressing to have these kind of thaughts. I have considered talking to a psycologist about it, but the prospect of being judged on a negative way or even being reported to the authorities really frightens me.

I would love to know from people who have experienced therapy (for pedophilia or other illegar paraphalias) how did it go? Did you feel acceptance or rejection? Has anyone ended up in legal truble for talking about it? Was ir helpful?

Also if people have knowledge on the topic of selecting a therapist or the potential legal consecuences would be great if you could shed some light on the topic.

I am in North America, so experiences from USA/Canada would be most helfull in my case (but I am sure there is people interested in this topic from other countries.

Thanks!

Schwa wrote:Hi Noone,

I've told two therapists about my attraction to boys and I've never felt judged.
My situation is a bit different from yours, however, since I'm attracted to teenage boys and not children on the one hand, and this happened in France and not in the US on the other hand.

Was it useful? Yes, I find it useful to be able to talk about that part of my life. But not tremendously useful either. It did not change my outlook on my attractions.
The main reason I opened up about this issue was that I was fed up with hiding an important issue to the therapist whereas he was supposed to help me with life in general, and with my thoughts, even the most private ones. I thought hiding this issue was counter-productive and I was a bit ashamed of it. I didn't expect anything in particular. I had been in therapy for several months when I decided to broach the subject, I trusted the therapist and the combination of medication and psychotherapy has already worked wonder on my depression.

I'll end this post with a piece of advice: if you think you could benefit from therapy, don't let shame or fear prevent you from trying it.

bettertimes wrote:

Pig wrote:It's possible that I'm wrong in that they're trying to legalize adult-child sex.

The freerepublic article can be misleading too.

But I'd only like to be a member of a group that is officially 100% against adult-child sex.

"We are not an organization for people who want to debate whether sex between children and adults should be legal. We are united in our belief that sexual activity between adults and children is a very bad idea." (http://www.virped.org/index.php/f-a-q-2nd-page --> Q7)

And http://www.virped.org/index.php/f-a-q-last-page --> Q15

I think you are wrong about B4U-ACT. Although I think it's important to understand why research shows that a lot of children are not effected negatively by having sex with adults, and even think of it as a positive experience. I'm not saying you should do anything illegal but the research is interesting.

And pedophilia is in fact a sexual orientation. But that doesn't have anything to do with legalizing sex with children.

mels8780 wrote:Teenage guys? Wow, everyone would be going for that. That's not a paraphilia. Do you mean its very specific and obsessive? I guess it can be a problem then..