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Postby SpySappinMahSentry » Wed Feb 01, 2012 8:23 pm

How can I stop being in denial about my pedophilia? Why can't I just accept it?
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Postby Kristoff1235 » Thu Feb 02, 2012 5:54 am

hm... thats a hard one to answer. for me it didnt exactly feel real till i told someone... and back then it was "just a curiousity". now im more comfortable about it and know its not just a curiousity so much.
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Postby PNL2 » Fri Feb 03, 2012 3:07 pm

Firstly, stop hating yourself for it.

Secondly appreciate how lucky you are to know how wonderful children are when most parents have days of really hating them :lol:

Thirdly just see how much better life becomes for you when you accept that you cannot change and really would not want to even if you could.
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Postby SpySappinMahSentry » Fri Feb 03, 2012 8:41 pm

Pedosneedlovetoo wrote:Thirdly just see how much better life becomes for you when you accept that you cannot change and really would not want to even if you could.


But I do want to change it.
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Postby GinaSmith » Fri Feb 03, 2012 9:31 pm

I agree with Pedosneedlovetoo. It can't be changed. Medication is available to reduce the libido, but your sexuality cannot be changed so fundamentally. I would also suggest that working on acceptance is instrumental in a happier existence, and more conducive to a crime-free life in which you don't turn into the stock monster society expects you to be.
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Postby SpySappinMahSentry » Fri Feb 03, 2012 10:04 pm

I know it can't be changed. What upsets me is that Pedosneedlovetoo made it sound like something we all want and should be proud to have.

And it is not a sexuality, it is a disease.
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Postby Kristoff1235 » Fri Feb 03, 2012 10:13 pm

though i dont think its something to be jealous of, its something that cant be changed. Ill be blunt here. Pick yourself up off the floor, quit pitying yourself, and learn about it. Itll help you control yourself in situations of opportunity. It is actually as much a sexuality as homosexuality or heterosexuality. because your mind cant be forced to not like it like a disease can be fixed. Seriously just learn from it. I wish you all the luck. :)
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Postby GinaSmith » Fri Feb 03, 2012 11:19 pm

SpySappinMahSentry wrote:And it is not a sexuality, it is a disease.


I will neither endorse nor deny that statement, but I will point out that such thinking is a recipe for ongoing self-hate and misery.
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Postby SpySappinMahSentry » Sat Feb 04, 2012 5:09 am

I don't know if I need to clarify this, but when I say "Why can't I just accept it?" I mean the fact the I am a pedophile.

I will never see this as something good or something to be happy about.
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Postby Kristoff1235 » Sat Feb 04, 2012 6:25 am

were not saying it is, but i feel its something best accepted.
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