Have you told anyone?

by **AnonymousAndy** » Tue Jul 12, 2011 3:09 pm

Shrink Rap wrote:It is important to keep in mind that there is a great divide between pedophilia and incest. Pedophiles rarely get involved with family members, and those who engage in incest with children are rarely pedophiles. Of course, if a pedophile had been a victim of incest himself, that would change the dynamic so it is more likely in that case.

I am a victim of incest, so that might change things. However, I can see what you're saying. Six years after telling, I can say that the "trigger" about my nephews is less strong (but not gone all together) than other kids their ages. I always just attributed that to them being related and so I'm not attracted to them like I wouldn't be attracted to my sister.

For example, I visit the nephews at their house sometimes, and the last time we were all changing to go swimming and I saw both my nephews naked because they ran out of their room. I know that if it had been any other 3 and 6 year old I would've been drooling and going crazy in my head, but with them for some reason I found it easier to look away and not obsess.

So what you say makes sense to me in that regard. That said, I'm still glad I told anyway.

Recently, through circumstances I had no control over, I decided it was best that I come out to my parents and my brother and be honest about my sexuality.

They have taken in remarkebly well. My mother has listened to what I have had to say and has provided me with incredible support.

On the subject of the topic, I said to her recently

"Not every heterosexual man is a rapist, just like not every homosexual man is either. There are some men who are born attracted to boys and I am one of them, this doesn't mean I am a rapist or an intrisically evil person, my sexual identity is something I cannot change and is something I never asked for, I have learned to live with the fact that the good majority of people would brand me a monster."

She replied

"Son, I cannot imagine how difficult it must be for you."

I love her so much and I am so happy she feels compassion for me. She is a very open minded and understanding person. I feel as if I have been able to enlighten someone.

by **Kellicious** » Wed Sep 21, 2011 6:06 am

I have never talked to anyone about my desires except online. :oops:

by **Blben** » Thu Sep 22, 2011 12:51 am

I have been close a few times but never been honest to the people that are around me. I had a few people I knew in the past that left crap on there computer so there loved ones could find it and thought about doing it that way, yet I don't have Illegal material so that wouldn't work anyway. Maybe some day i will be honest and tell someone, yet for now I think its a good idea to keep it a secret.

by **Diaperfetish10** » Mon Sep 26, 2011 12:57 am

I told my best friend a few years ago and have spoken once since. It wasn't a nice chat

I knew I could trust the person and I tried getting in touch again about 18 months ago and was told never to get in touch again. The thing that worries me most is I have burdened someone else with this. They are always going to know.

by **Lonelyrider** » Sat Oct 01, 2011 12:43 pm

I have told 6 of my friends, and 5 of them have been very supportive. The 6th one can't talk to be at all, so she felt too disgusted. I know she has told her friends about it too, so that didn't work out too well.

So when you're about to tell someone, you should know that person quite a lot. You should try to find out about their humanity and if they are persons that usually don't judge people for who they are.

If you feel that your friend such values, it can work out. But there is always a risk I guess.

The reason I told them, was because I knew I couldn't live anymore without some support. So it was telling or dying.

by **nothingcertain** » Tue Oct 04, 2011 6:41 am

Other than people on the internet, ive only told my therapist.

When I was younger I was kind of dumb and said stupid things so my one friend knows, though never confirmed. My housemate knows I'm attracted to teenage girls, which I could care less about. I know thats because I'm attracted to girls as young as 7, so a 14/15 year old seems old to me. Whatever.

by **encephalo** » Tue Oct 04, 2011 4:22 pm

A few years ago I told someone I was dating about my sexuality. He took it pretty well at first, then rejected it harshly, and then came out to me about being the same. We've cut off contact with each other since then, but it felt nice and bad to be able to tell someone else.

On one side of this sharp coin that cuts my brain up every time I turn in over in my head, there is a freedom in coming out to others I know and love. Then, of course, there's the darker side that equals a catalyst that would make my situation even more difficult than it already is.

Right now, I don't see myself telling anyone else any time soon. And this is just for my safety and security. I'm comfortable with it right now, so I don't feel any need to tell anyone, anyway.

by **GinaSmith** » Tue Oct 04, 2011 5:20 pm

encephalo wrote:I'm comfortable with it right now, so I don't feel any need to tell anyone, anyway.

This is the bottom line when it comes to coming out or not.

by **GinaSmith** » Wed Oct 05, 2011 5:35 am

I told a good friend (heterosexual male) a couple of weeks ago and he was a bit shocked and stuck to saying things like 'really?' and 'woh!'. Last night on the phone, however, he said 'sorry if my reaction didn't seem accepting enough' and then 'I like girls that age too'.

Have you told anyone?

Re: Have you told anyone?

ADVERTISEMENT

Re: Have you told anyone?

Re: Have you told anyone?

Re: Have you told anyone?

Re: Have you told anyone?

Re: Have you told anyone?

Re: Have you told anyone?

Re: Have you told anyone?

Re: Have you told anyone?

Re: Have you told anyone?

Who is online