abuse ive been through maybe caused weird paraphilias

i dont know why im writing this all down here.

ok so i cannot remember what age this happened but i was friends with this guy maybe in gr. 1.

he would tie me to a fence if i came to school before him and yell in my face to the point that i was crying. i cant remember how often this happened. also he would not let me answer in class and give me dirty looks and would tie me too a fence i think from that too.

its weird because i mentally blocked that happening for a very long time and we continued to be best friends for 15 years with me never ever bringing it up. he stopped doing that behaviour after a while but i never told anyone.

ok this might not be that drastic but when i was 8 yrs old my mom babysat this hyper boy we were good friends but i remember him coming on to me and it was super gross at the time. he also made me show my private parts to him. one time he told me if i showed him he would give me this nintendo game i really liked, but he lied and never gave it to me. what i find pretty hilarious though is when he showed me his private parts i laughed at them really hard. lols i probably scarred him for life but what do u expect i was just a kid i didnt start thinking about sex until i was 14 at least.

the last thing that happend which was the absolute worst which still haunts me is the abuse i got from my best friend in gr 6-7. she was emotionally and physically abusive really bad. one time i told my mother and she told me never to see her again but when i did her my mom slapped me in the face. i was scared to stop being friends with her but luckily i got to another school in grade 8 so i never saw her again, although right after all of that happening i got social phobia really bad and had to go on medication.

do you think this could cause weird paraphilias?

i'm not really sure as to what can cause paraphilias, since they can arise out of what seems to be thin air sometimes. i suppose that it can be quite likely, but no real proof for my part.
i sometimes like to say that my pedophilia was caused from the physical abuse that my parents sometimes inflicted upon me from time to time, but not even i can buy this story. for many of us, including myself i believe, these paraphilias are natural occurences and show up at random times in your life, mine appearing at around the age 10, maybe even mid-9. But one thing that i can tell you is that they are probably not going to be going away once they pop up, so getting used to them is your best bet.
i am also very sorry to hear about your past, it seems very sad and i would have definitely tried to help you if i was there and knowledgeable of the situation. The worst things always have to happen to the nicest and best people, so don't get down about it please.

It is possible that your lovemap could have been affected by certain experiences at critical times in its development. But you haven't said just what "weird paraphilias" you are experiencing.

Father of Sexology John Money coined the term lovemap to refer to the preferred sexual scenario enacted or fantasized about with the preferred sex partner. For each person there can be described an idea sexual scenario with the ideal partner. That is one's lovemap. They can be fixed rather early in one's life, and can remain remarkably constant over time.

Most paraphilias do not have an identifiable cause, at least as far as most sexologists know as of now. But in a few cases, they have been shown to have been caused by early experiences. John Money describes seven such cases in Vandalized Lovemaps: Paraphilic Outcome of Seven Cases in Pediatric Sexology.

Also good reading on the topic is his Lovemaps: Clinical Concepts of Sexual/Erotic Health and Pathology, Paraphilia, and Gender Transposition in Childhood, Adolescence, and Maturity.