Boy trying to seduce me, need help

Well done for resisting. I think I might struggle if a ten-year-old girl were to do the same to me.

I do think there are two possibilities here. Firstly there is the possibility that the boy is already well into puberty - it is uncommon but not rare for puberty to commence early in some individuals and his sexual awareness may be a product of puberty rather than abuse. Secondly, there is the possibility that he has learned sexual behaviour through abuse. In view of his parents' attitude as described, I would imagine the latter scenario is more likely. Also in view of his parents' attitude, I would imagine they might be implicated in his abuse. Perhaps they're relishing the opportunity to get another fairly young gentleman in on the action to enhance their fun, and they would be able to blackmail you into silence.

Exactly.

It's very sad... but I understand you can't do much to help, really.

Perhaps you can give it a little while of having no contact with him, then tip someone off, someone who can and likely will do something. Anonymously if possible, if you wish to avoid being caught up in any fallout. I'm sure you can find someone who'd be ready to help the poor kid, even if it just means calling the police. I don't know... your position is very tough... I hope you can do something positive, and well done for your self-restraint.

Or tip off the police anyway. If they come up with some sh*t like 'he's a paedophile and he wants our son', just deny it. It'll seem like they're making it up to take the scent off their own involvement. It's a tricky legal situation but the more you remain involved the more you will be a target of suspicion.

hey people,
today went well i guess, i mean it wasn't as bad as i expected but was still terrible.
i went to the party as usual and played video games with the boy for a few hours and basically had some fun with him until the rest of the guests left and then told him that i needed to speak with him privately for a moment and asked him to follow me into his room. he followed, (probably assuming that i meant speaking with him to be something else that he wanted), and then i told him that i had fun today, and that this was the kind of fun that i wanted to share with him, and that his ideas that he tried to get me into doing with him was not fun, and just wrong. After hearing this, as i expected, he burst into tears and then beat on me a little. something unexpected however, was when he went up to my parents and said that i didn't want to speak to him anymore and that i didn't want to be his friend anymore. my parents gave me a harsh glare then and soon after this moment we left the party and went back home. Upon arriving home, they scold me for making him cry and ruining his birthday, and asked me why i didn't want to be his friend anymore and hang out with him. I couldn't think of anything believable to say, and they interpreted my silence as not caring, so now they basically think that i am a bully that likes making 11 year olds cry and ruining their birthday parties. The boy's parents also do not want to see me anymore, i got this message when i looked at them on my way out, they gave me a similar deep glare of hatred. So basically, i am now the most hated person between the 2 families, believed to be a bully that likes making children cry. i just hope that it doesn't get any worse in the near future

I think you should tell your parents the truth. Not about your sexuality but about the situation with the boy and his parents.

I couldn't think of anything believable to say, and they interpreted my silence as not caring, so now they basically think that i am a bully that likes making 11 year olds cry and ruining their birthday parties. The boy's parents also do not want to see me anymore, i got this message when i looked at them on my way out, they gave me a similar deep glare of hatred. So basically, i am now the most hated person between the 2 families, believed to be a bully that likes making children cry. i just hope that it doesn't get any worse in the near future

I think you did the right thing. It wasn't going to be easy and the options you had before you weren't going to be pleasent but you took an important first step towards arresting and eventually putting an end to this problem that could have made you regret yourself for the rest of your life.

You handled it very well.

Hi inferiority,
I agree with Gina and Dan. It might have hurt to see the boy cry, but you know you did the right thing. I think you should consider telling your parents (as Gina suggested), so that you don't feel you have to unfairly carry all the blame that both families are placing on you.

But if you choose not to tell, be proud of the way you acted - though it may have made you look like a bully, you (and we!) know the real story.

Oh wow, really expert advice. How about not?

A lot of people find masterbatipn to be calming. It was just a sugestion

Platypus wrote:Hi inferiority,
I agree with Gina and Dan. It might have hurt to see the boy cry, but you know you did the right thing. I think you should consider telling your parents (as Gina suggested), so that you don't feel you have to unfairly carry all the blame that both families are placing on you.

But if you choose not to tell, be proud of the way you acted - though it may have made you look like a bully, you (and we!) know the real story.

And a +1 from me too.

Divinorum wrote:I'm sure you can find someone who'd be ready to help the poor kid, even if it just means calling the police.

Calling the police would probably be the worst thing you could do. You never want to involve them if you can avoid it. Look what happened to this loving father who cared so much about his son that he called the police for help:

A father's desperate call to find help for his 12-year-old son triggered consequences for his
family that he never imagined - his only son's charge of rape, the breakup of his marriage and a
costly, four-year legal battle for justice that went all the way to the Ohio Supreme Court.
"I feel responsible for it, because I made that phone call," the father said, his eyes welling
with tears. "It was the worst phone call I made in my entire life. I should have never called."
"We didn't know," his ex-wife said, "that our son could be taken from us and put away (as) this
major criminal."

Gina Smith wrote:Or tip off the police anyway. If they come up with some sh*t like 'he's a paedophile and he wants our son', just deny it.

Again, really poor advice. You seem to be forgetting that when it comes to paedophilia, the world is upside down. Once you are accused, they do not have to prov you guilty; rather, you must prove yourself innocent, and when it comes to the word of an alleged victim saying you did it against your word saying you didn't, guess who wins? Hint: it's not you.

Don't do it. You'll just end up traumatizing the kid, his family, and yourself.

inferiority wrote:today went well i guess, i mean it wasn't as bad as i expected but was still terrible.
i went to the party as usual and played video games with the boy for a few hours and basically had some fun with him until the rest of the guests left and then told him that i needed to speak with him privately for a moment and asked him to follow me into his room. he followed, (probably assuming that i meant speaking with him to be something else that he wanted), and then i told him that i had fun today, and that this was the kind of fun that i wanted to share with him, and that his ideas that he tried to get me into doing with him was not fun, and just wrong. After hearing this, as i expected, he burst into tears and then beat on me a little. something unexpected however, was when he went up to my parents and said that i didn't want to speak to him anymore and that i didn't want to be his friend anymore. my parents gave me a harsh glare then and soon after this moment we left the party and went back home. Upon arriving home, they scold me for making him cry and ruining his birthday, and asked me why i didn't want to be his friend anymore and hang out with him. I couldn't think of anything believable to say, and they interpreted my silence as not caring, so now they basically think that i am a bully that likes making 11 year olds cry and ruining their birthday parties. The boy's parents also do not want to see me anymore, i got this message when i looked at them on my way out, they gave me a similar deep glare of hatred. So basically, i am now the most hated person between the 2 families, believed to be a bully that likes making children cry. i just hope that it doesn't get any worse in the near future

Not sure why you call that "going well." I can't believe you hurt the kid like that. And on his birthday??? What were you thinking? Why did this suddenly become such an emergency after all this time that you had to do it exactly on his birthday? So now we have a hurt boy, parents who hate you, and your own parents who are disgusted. My God. You managed to traumatize the kid, alienate both his and your parents, as well as traumatize yourself, and without even calling the police! It went well, did it?

I don't mean to get down on you, but I am just having a hard time trying to fathom what happened and why. I am really sorry you seen to have taken to heart the well-meaning but misguided advice of some of the posters here. It is incredible that these are people who claim to care so much about children and now are applauding the fact that you did the right thing by hurting him. Just bizarre.