I long to make a corpse my beloved

licht wrote:Hello, Graveyard.

It is nice to see you have returned. I've been following this thread with interest.

The question you are raising now is currently being discussed in another thread on this board. Basilisk and myself are having a wonderful time, disseminating our various paraphilias. I would be interested to hear your input, if you feel so inclined.

paraphilias/topic62349.html

Righto. See you there!

Just 2 random questions here. Honest answers would be greatly appreciated:

Have you (as a necrophile) ever experienced 'love' or a strong attraction to a particular corpse? (When someone dies I don't see them as being 'in there' any more but simply elsewhere). Also, as this is anonymous (more or less), can you please explain some of the factors, without being too pornographic, that bring about or increase sexual attraction to a corpse/dead-person? To elaborate I find the warmth of a person in a simple thing as a hug to add to the sexual excitement or even them volunteering the odd romantic suggestion or compliment both of which would be missing in a lifeless person. Please please please don't take offence I am merely curious and would like some light shed on the subject.

Thankyou.

raleigh11 wrote:Just 2 random questions here. Honest answers would be greatly appreciated:

Have you (as a necrophile) ever experienced 'love' or a strong attraction to a particular corpse? (When someone dies I don't see them as being 'in there' any more but simply elsewhere). Also, as this is anonymous (more or less), can you please explain some of the factors, without being too pornographic, that bring about or increase sexual attraction to a corpse/dead-person? To elaborate I find the warmth of a person in a simple thing as a hug to add to the sexual excitement or even them volunteering the odd romantic suggestion or compliment both of which would be missing in a lifeless person. Please please please don't take offence I am merely curious and would like some light shed on the subject.

Thankyou.

Hi, raleigh11.

To answer your first question, yes, I have experienced very strong 'love' and attraction to a particular corpse, ie: the young woman in the vault who I described in my first post.

To answer your second question, the way I felt with her was probably exactly the same way you feel with a living person. I often hear people describe a 'tingle' that they feel when close to a person they are attracted to. I've never felt a 'tingle' from a living person. The only time I've ever experienced such a sensation was with her.

You talk about exchanging romantic suggestions and compliments, and I get what you're saying, but really there was no need for such things. The feeling of being with her was so special, there was no need for any words. Does that make sense?

MMonroe wrote:Am I the only one who read this and thought, "that's bloody romantic" ?

Thanks. That's how I see it too.

It's socially unacceptable though. That's the thing.

Graveyard wrote:I have a theory that some paraphilias are nature's way of throwing up a wild card. Do you follow that?

Yes, in a way. I'm inclined towards reading that as an anamnestic interpretation of paraphilias, in the sense of bringing the innate to light. Scrutinizing my own sexuality, I'd have to say that only certain parts of it feel innate (if going on feeling is a reliable means of attaining to some form of truthful interpretation). At the very least, my sexuality feels very fluid, something that has evolved along with my personality in response to life experiences. I suspect the boundaries between innate and blurred are not clear-cut. What I do 'know' is that what I'm attracted to is very much directed by prevalent taste. I'm into women. Why is it that I'm into young women American/European women far more than, say, African tribeswomen (do nothing for me) or pretty young Chinese? I'm not sure where I stand on this, so I reserve the right to not provide a coherent answer, but one thing I would propose is that the sexual instinct is innate (in most people at least), and everything else seems to be filled in later.

GinaSmith wrote:

Graveyard wrote:I have a theory that some paraphilias are nature's way of throwing up a wild card. Do you follow that?

Yes, in a way. I'm inclined towards reading that as an anamnestic interpretation of paraphilias, in the sense of bringing the innate to light. Scrutinizing my own sexuality, I'd have to say that only certain parts of it feel innate (if going on feeling is a reliable means of attaining to some form of truthful interpretation). At the very least, my sexuality feels very fluid, something that has evolved along with my personality in response to life experiences. I suspect the boundaries between innate and blurred are not clear-cut. What I do 'know' is that what I'm attracted to is very much directed by prevalent taste. I'm into women. Why is it that I'm into young women American/European women far more than, say, African tribeswomen (do nothing for me) or pretty young Chinese? I'm not sure where I stand on this, so I reserve the right to not provide a coherent answer, but one thing I would propose is that the sexual instinct is innate (in most people at least), and everything else seems to be filled in later.

I'm not sexuality attracted to different races either, although East Asian women can be very pretty.

My attraction for dead women has never changed, but the types of living women I am attracted to has evolved over my lifetime. When I was younger, I had a liking for fat women and/or brunettes. This shifted to slim blondes after a very painful relationship break up.

I have wondered if it's possible to 'shift' the part of me that is attracted to dead women over to living women. I do feel that it is a hardwired instinct though, and I'm not sure I'd want to stop loving that woman in the vault. I'd miss the feeling, definitely, and there's also the fact that she is incapable of hurting me. Although the closest I can be to her now is to sit outside the vault, there's a 'safeness' with her. I don't know if I could let go of her completely, no matter how ashamed I am to be a necrophiliac.

True love shapes your sexuality. It can be very surprising when you fall in love, as that person might be far from your usual type. Love redefines types (in my experience).

GinaSmith wrote:True love shapes your sexuality. It can be very surprising when you fall in love, as that person might be far from your usual type. Love redefines types (in my experience).

I follow that. Several girlfriends (living girlfriends that is!) I've had in my life have been 'types' that I wouldn't necessarily have gone for before I met them. I still get on with most of them, but I usually go for women who aren't anything like anyone I've been with before.

i don't know why manic666 is even on here. i said it yesterday and i'll say it again. this is not the time or place for that type of ignorant and hateful $#%^! i can only speak for myself but i can tell you that i did not ask to be this way, i tried to change it for years and years but repressing it only made my urges stronger. i've been so mistreated and abused (literally) for my sexuality. This was the one place i felt i was allowed to be who i really am and this person has ruined that for me. i am not a rapist. my love for and attraction to the dead has nothing to do with rape and anyone who calls me that doesn't know anything about me or any other necrophile. i am so hurt and angry

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seriously, life is hard enough as it is without people who don't know us saying things that are so hurtful. when i first found out i prefer dead guys,i went from hating myself for it, feeling almost suicidal and self mutilating to hiding everything i am from the rest of the world and trying to supress my sexual feelings to trying to accept it, it was a long and very difficult journey for me and i feel like i am being pushed in the wrong direction.

oh my days ive only just found this site i canny believe what ive been missing