Stocking & Heel fetish RUINING MY MARRIGE

I'm new to this but I'm desperately looking for help....

I'm a 30 yr old male who is married to a loving and caring wife.

I've had a strong stocking, pantyhose, and heel fetish since I was a kid. When I was younger, I would experiment with wearing stockings, heels, and "cross-dressing" so to speak. I guess I grew out of it the older I got. When I see an attractive female sporting any of these items, I become extremely aroused and think about it for the rest of the day.

My wife HATES wearing nylons in general. I think in our 5 year marriage, I've seen her out of the house in nylons MAYBE 2 times.

My problem is its becoming increasingly difficult to become aroused with my wife UNLESS she wears the items in bed. She usually does it without complaint. The canned question of "why don't you like me for me" has come up and I feel bad. I cant even understand my problem, so how can I explain it to her? I'm finding myself "hoarding" pornography depicting these fetishes, and secretly watching this while masturbating to fulfill my need.

What should I do??? I love my wife, and she loves me. Our sex life is going down the toilet and I need advise!

Please help!! Thanks!!

Joe, does anything besides your fetish ever turn you on? If there is anything like that, maybe you could explore and try to find it in your wife. Or maybe remembering how things were in the beginning of your relationship, trying to remember what attracted you to her will help.