Significant other's zoophilia and its effect

Recently, my boyfriend has told me about his interest in zoophilia. He wishes to see me perform with one of my dogs as he says the thought itself is a huge turn-on for him, but he understands my skeptic attitude towards it. I honestly would do anything to make him happy and satisfied with me and he says that he is, but this is a gray area exception for myself. Even though he says the sight of other women performing these acts has no real effect "because they are not [me]", I have my doubts as any reasonable person would. In short, I need help to tell him in a tackful but not ruthless way that I'm not entirely comfortable with this. Any help is greatly appreciated. (And no, I do not plan on breaking up with him because we all have our kinks and I plan on working this out maturely).

You need to tell your boyfriend that what he's doing is illegal, and that there is a chance that he will be caught and prosecuted. There are more Internet 'police' these days, and he really is running the risk of getting caught. Also, you need to tell him that there is "NO WAY - EVER" - that you are going to partake in any of this. do not support him in any way when he talks about this stuff, as it is illegal (like I have already mentioned). If you think that he needs help, then tell him to send me a private message or to create his own post on this forum.

Kevin

First and foremost I think true commitment is really necessary for any sexual relationship to be meaningful. Therefore i respond with the assumption that you're fully committed to one-another, not just sexually, but emotionally as well.

I'd venture to say it all depends on your style of communication as a couple. However you tell him, I think it will help that you show him you understand how important his fantasy is to him. If you're not exactly sure how important it is to him to live out his fantasy, you might ask him to rate it on a scale from 1-10, 1 being not important at all, 10 being it's so important he'd break up with you if you didn't eventually meet his expectations. As you ask let it be a way of showing him that you care and aren't simply saying "no" because you don't want to. When he knows you care, then tell him how uncomfortable it makes you in similar terms (whether on the scale of 1-10 or some other way, -- i.e. it's illegal, demeaning, unappealing to you). You might consider making a compromise. Find out something else he likes and try that. Suggest something else you are comfortable with while validating his feelings. Validation is the key to being gentle. You can validate his feelings while being assertive, without sympathizing or agreeing to do anything that makes you uncomfortable. If he loves you he'll respect you and be grateful that you understand his more taboo fantasies, even if you never indulge them

This page has more information about validation if you like. I recommend reading it.

Above all, make love-making fun for both of you. If that's impossible then there's a bigger problem.

*Edited by admin - Chucky*

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