Incest.

Is this technically a paraphelia?

This is quite hard for me to admit, bur ever since I can remember I've had fantisys about being raped and abused by people in positions of authority over me. Teachers when i was a school, employers later on and perhaps most often of all my own father.

It's something I stopped feeling guilty about long time ago, and just excepted as a little 'quirk' about my sexual nature. I was never abused as a child so I have no idea where it all comes from. Some people have it a lot worse, I'd hate to be a peadophile (no offense to u guys...but ) or some Dahmer-like charicter . The incest is never something that could become an actuality, indeed, I don't think I'd ever want it to happen. I was just wondering if anyone has had similer expeirences here with unwanted incest/domination fantisies?

pulszer, don't worry about " fantasies".. we all get all sorts of fantasies from time to time. I believe acting on is what puts you in an entirely new context. Or a desire to act on it, which you seemingly don't have.

Well I Have life experience with two kinds of incest

The first was father son incest and it was non consensual. It started at 4 l really hated that and even though I had other more extreme forms abuse later in life I still consider that the worst because of the betrayal of trust. So no I don’t fantasize about it I do have nightmares about it but I don’t fantasize.

The second was very different. I was 16 she was my first cousin and it was mutual. I will admit that I do fondly remember that and I have fantasized about it since.

I have never had any incestuous fantasies, but I did have some other " odd" fantasies, although they occur quite rarely.

My point is that weird fantasies float around striking all of us, some of us more often that others.

Welcome Pulszer. Sorry for the late reply.

I don't fantasize of being raped incestuously as myself, but in my fantasies I have occasionally played the role of a girl being raped by her older, or more powerful, relative/peer/authority figure.

If you're looking for reassurance that you're not alone, I think I can give you that. I've come across people with just about every fetish imaginable, and, yes, I know there are others out there with the exact fantasies you described. Of course, the way I find these individuals indicates that they embrace their fantasies at least as long as they remain anonymous to the ones who know about their fantasies. It seems to me that the ones who won't embrace their fantasies even in anonymity often go undetected. My guess is that there are more guys out there who aren't willing to admit that they have those fantasies than I can find who do admit it. It's my well-reasoned assumption that this is also true of probably every other type of fetishist or paraphiliac.

hey guys.

i had fantasies about my older sister, this stopped when i was 17, up until this i had problems trying not to masturbate (i would fantasise about other girls mainly), i would become depressed after doing it and kinda hated it i guess. When i met my girlfriend i became strong enough to give up masturbating, i have now not done it in over 2 years and i am now 19 years old. I recently seeked help from a therapist because i feel guilty about the way i used to see my sister and fantasise sometimes.

I am not sure what u mean by act on the thoughts, i dont believe i did apart from what i have already writen. I realise this is wrong , disgusting, whatever, but at the time it was confusing and i didnt think it was that bad. I do now though, infact i hate myself for it.

Do you see me in a bad way because i had the desire to masturbate etc about this fantasies, i cant believe i used to think like that. At least i can see i have changed now.

I would like to add i have a normal relationship with my sister, i do not see her that way anymore, maybe i grew out of it. And i love her as my sister.

Ryan

Ryn89 wrote:hey guys.

i had fantasies about my older sister, this stopped when i was 17, up until this i had problems trying not to masturbate (i would fantasise about other girls mainly), i would become depressed after doing it and kinda hated it i guess. When i met my girlfriend i became strong enough to give up masturbating, i have now not done it in over 2 years and i am now 19 years old. I recently seeked help from a therapist because i feel guilty about the way i used to see my sister and fantasise sometimes.

I am not sure what u mean by act on the thoughts, i don't believe i did apart from what i have already writen. I realise this is wrong , disgusting, whatever, but at the time it was confusing and i didn't think it was that bad. I do now though, in fact i hate myself for it.

Do you see me in a bad way because i had the desire to masturbate etc about this fantasies, i cant believe i used to think like that. At least i can see i have changed now.

I would like to add i have a normal relationship with my sister, i do not see her that way anymore, maybe i grew out of it. And i love her as my sister.

Ryan

Hi Ryan,

I also read your other thread. If you're no longer having these fantasies, I don't think there's anything to worry about. You still have a long life ahead of you. You could even live for another 80 or so years. You don't wanna be regretting some fantasies you had as a teen for that long. I can kind of relate to having fantasies that I myself find disgusting. The only advice I can really give is not to do it again.

It's good that you've quit masturbating and have a girlfriend. The only problem I see is that your fantasies about your sister stopped around the time you quit masturbating. I'm not saying it's inevitable that you'll start masturbating again, but in the event that you do, hopefully you can have different fantasies.

thanks for the advice. I can 100percent say that even if i started masturbating again which i doubt i ever will, it will not include such fantasies.

Do you think i can recover mentally from the thoughts i used to have? what i mean by this is that i could hopefully understand why they happened and move on with my life.

Regards

Ryan

I think you can move on with life, but the real key might or might not be what you expect. Even after you understand why you had those thoughts, you may not feel like the answer you have is good enough. What if it just makes you worry more about it or about something else? If you're upset about not knowing why, I think there are two ways of dealing with that. You could search for an answer to your question that you might not find, or you could figure out why the whole situation bothers you in the first place.

For example, how do you feel an explanation for your past attraction will help you now? What bothers you about having had those fantasies in the first place? Is it only society's standards? If you'd fantasized about you and someone who looks just like your sister, but isn't, would that have bothered you as much or at all? Why? You know, that sort of thing. We're happy to help you talk it out as long as you feel the need to here.

hey s3 thanks for the replY!

my main worry is about societys standards and what people would think of me if they knew about it. My therapist assures me she doesnt fink badly of me which i guess kinda helps.

Basically i am terrified of what people would think of me