Am I a non-exclusive pedophile if I'm attracted to childlik-

Um, excuse me. I seem to have ran out of characters for my thread.

The thread I meant to make had said "Am I a non-exclusive pedophile if I'm attracted to adults who look like children?".

I'm not sure whether I'm a pedophile or not. But if I am, I'm also not sure if I'm an exclusive or non-exclusive pedophile. I actually tend to not think about real children in a lewd fashion. And it hasn't been something that has happened to me commonly since I was around 16 where actual sexual thoughts about real children were very common and distressing for me.

But since then, internet and internet resources got better and I've had things like lolicon and shotacon as an outlet, and it's been a great coping mechanism to redirect my feelings and thoughts to something much more healthy. I discovered lolicon and shotacon when I was 12, but by the time I was a young adult, it had become a really helpful coping mechanism to redirect my feelings. I don't know where I would be without things like shotacon and lolicon to help me with my sexuality. But probably a lot more sexually frustrated and suppressed person.

Anyway, shotacon and lolicon fulfilled my desires enough, that knowing that sexualizing real children was wrong and inappropriate, that I was able to forgo the thoughts to being rare occasions for years.

In fact, I'm attracted to quite a few adult men and women to varying degrees. But they're all androgynous in some way and look like children. And I'm afraid to mention the adult women I'm attracted to, a lot of them are adult Asian celebrities or entertainers who look very young, which would make me look like an Asian fetishist and a racist in front of others. So it's not something I feel like I can admit to other people. There's already a stigma against race mixing and people who are attracted to adult Asian women, especially young looking East Asian women are called pedophiles.

I don't like bringing up this subject, because it's a very sad facet of society. It would be nice if we could all be colour blind and racism wasn't a problem, and race mixing wasn't stigmatized. And while luckily adult women like that can consent, I fear that some of the adult women I'm attracted to would have people calling me a pedophile anyway, as they often do. As well as a racist.

That's not to say that I think that ethnic fetishism is good. And I take great effort to avoid racially stereotyping people or promoting or being a part of stereotypes that are racist. But people have called me an Asian fetishist(i.e. a racist) and a pedophile for some of the adult Japanese women I'm attracted to.

So even when I'm attracted to adult women, I feel bad. I still feel like a pedophile when I'm attracted to adult women, and even a racist(because there's a taboo against race mixing, and people often assume the worst of non-Asian people attracted to someone Asian like a Japanese singer).

I want to say this right now, that I'm attracted to people of all races and I think racial stereotypes are wrong. I just wanted to note that I'm attracted to many Japanese and other East Asian adults, since I enjoy a lot of entertainment from those countries. But all of those who I do look like children.

I'm attracted to people of all races, but all of the people of those races I'm attracted to, look like children in some way. Having flat chests, narrow hips, petite or narrow shoulders, and big, round, flat faces.

The more post-pubescant an adult looks, the less attracted I am to them. So it's like a spectrum, when the more pre-pubeescent someone looks, the more attracted to them, I am.

Even though this is a public video, I do wonder how much this person would enjoy or appreciate me posting this video here. But it is a public video, so I hope they won't mind.

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[myflash=p0ppvfNZlkc]Glad You're a Lolicon[/myflash]
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I'm really attracted to this person and many other adult women. But she looks very childlike, and I'm sure has taken many measures to look more childlike in this video. She's petite, has a cute face, and even looks flat chested, as far as I can tell. Though one thing that bothers me and causes me to be less attracted to her, every time I watch it, is her hips seem rather wide. It looks like her hips have been quite widened from puberty, and it's very unattractive to me and bothersome. I'm much less attracted to her hips.

But still, at least I'm able to be attracted to adults on some level. I'm definitely attracted to the fact they're mature and can consent. What I'm not attracted to is the body types that many adults have. What I'm not attracted to is... the tendencies that many adults have, physically. The physical features that adults have a tendency towards, my body and sexuality isn't capable of reacting positively towards and finding sexy. And I don't seem to have any choice in this.

Am I an exclusive or non exclusive pedophile? I mean, it sounds like I'm not much of a pedophile if I can be so attracted to adults. But, at the same time, I seem to have no choice in the physical features I'm attracted to, and they're all childlike.

I actively try to find adults I can be attracted to, because that's the moral and ethical answer to my sexuality. But it's also very hard and difficult to find adults I'm attracted to and have the features I'm attracted to. Puberty almost always seems to take away those features from them.

Also, people like to say that it's "just making excuses". The people against things like lolicon and shotacon don't make an excuse for "adult loli" and "adult shota" characters. People seem just as disgusted, and care most about the looks. People say things like "don't sexualize children, even fictional children". And that it's "normalizing and creating pedophilia". And yet when characters are stated to be adults and look young, these same people seem to become morally outraged and say that "it's just an excuse" and still pedophilia. So the adulthood and adult characterization of these characters doesn't matter, as long as they're young looking. In fact, even if they're not sexualized, many people get upset when a character looks younger than their age.

And people often say the same of adults, real adults and not just fictional characters. When an adult looks like a child, many people choose to say that they "look creepy", that their body is "wrong", and that they shouldn't look that way, and people shouldn't be attracted to them. And that it's pedophilia.

So it makes me sound like a non-exclusive pedophile, even though for years I've directed all of my sexual feelings towards adults and fictional characters. It's still seen as pedophilia and still seen as wrong.

I have a choice in the matter of whether I direct my attractions towards minors or adults who can consent. But I don't have a choice in what body type I'm attracted to, and what body type I can be attracted to.

But it's still considered pedophilia. And I wonder if my attractions to adults are pedophilia, too? And if I'm an exclusive pedophile, despite my attraction to adults and having directed my sexual feelings towards adults for years. Can you still be an exclusive pedophile if you're attracted to adults?

TaintedAgria wrote:Can you still be an exclusive pedophile if you're attracted to adults?

No.

By the way, if you're consciously associating these adult women as "little girls" in their appearance, then you are finding an attraction to little girls. You may have tried to repress that attraction and have found this as a substitute to those undesirable urges. Not saying it's a bad substitute, because it's definitely not and is much better than the alternative. Of course most people will still be unaccepting of it though, because of their own associations.

Contro wrote:By the way, if you're consciously associating these adult women as "little girls" in their appearance

Not really, I don't think..

It's more like an independent, not very conscious, totally physical thing.

Beyond stereotypes, race, gender, age, nationality, or demographics of any type. It's like I have an underlying, instinctual attraction to certain physical features and body types, independent of gender, race, age, creed, or nationality.

I'm not making any sorts of associations like that, that I'm consciously aware of. And I would feel bad if I was, because that would mean I'm infantilizing adult women.

Contro wrote:then you are finding an attraction to little girls. You may have tried to repress your feelings and have found this as a substitute to those undesirable urges.

I do, but I've been able to ignore it for many many years. It's become more and more rare and occasional and easier to ignore since I've had sexual outlets and substitutes for so many years.

Sadly, people are trying to take that away and police what people look like as just an excuse. Making things like lolicon and shotacon illegal, and banning various resources for it(reddit just recently banned lolicon and shotacon related subs, after so many years of allowing it), including lolicon and shotacon with adult characterized characters(characters who are adult, mature, and not minors, but are nonetheless young looking and don't have large breasts, wide hips, or broad shoulders).

But yes, I've had many outlets and substitutes that have helped me for years to direct my sexuality in a more healthy direction. And I hope they will stay legal and not to marginalized(though I'm ever so worried, after what's happening in various websites over the matter).

TaintedAgria wrote:Not really, I don't think..

It's more like an independent, not very conscious, totally physical thing.

It's conscious because you brought it up. You see the resemblance and admit that it's what you're attracted to. That means if a minor had the body type you like, you would be attracted to them.

I think you do view women as children and as a way to vent your sexual feelings for children, but you don't like to admit that because you think it's wrong.

I guess I was confused about what you mean. I'm sorry about that.

I'm attracted to the typical physical features that children have or at least, stereotypically have.
You're right, I definitely consciously notice that the physical features I'm attracted to are considered childlike.

As for actual minors, that's been suppressed for many years, so I actually don't have any lewd thoughts about age inappropriate people very often. It's happened less and less, since I was a teenager. I think I've done a pretty good job at responding to and dealing with my sexuality, to direct it in the most healthy direction. Though, it's still seen as pedophilia by many people.

Most prepubescent children have the body type I like. But I've tried for many years to block that out and redirect it in a more healthy or acceptable direction and have been fairly successful. But it means that I still have many attractions and outlets that many people don't like and would want me cured of.

I don't think that I view any woman as a child, though. Child is a label about age, and I don't think I'm attracted to an age, just a body type.

TaintedAgria wrote:Child is a label about age, and I don't think I'm attracted to an age, just a body type.

Right, but there's many children with that body type, so it's hard to imagine that someone who is sexually aroused by that wouldn't be just because it's a child, you know? You even said that you were redirecting those fantasies.

Trying to bury an attraction doesn't make it any less real, it just makes it repressed and allows the person to feel like they're making progress. But if it feels right, then it probably is right for you.

If it doesn't feel right, then you should try something else.

Contro wrote:

TaintedAgria wrote:Child is a label about age, and I don't think I'm attracted to an age, just a body type.

Right, but there's many children with that body type, so it's hard to imagine that someone who is sexually aroused by that wouldn't be just because it's a child, you know? You even said that you were redirecting those fantasies.

Trying to bury an attraction doesn't make it any less real, it just makes it repressed and allows the person to feel like they're making progress. But if it feels right, then it probably is right for you.

If it doesn't feel right, then you should try something else.

THIS IS ALL SO TRUE. Im going to say what was told to me that helped me out some. Attraction is just attraction, it is not action, don't beat yourself up over it.

" lewd thoughts about age inappropriate people" so PC LOL.... Trying to suppress my attractions got me into trouble because I didn't head the warning signs. You are here so You think you need help? Admitting there is a problem is the firs step. Welcome, peeps here are pretty open.