Youth Sex Paradoxes

Conjecture: the efforts to stamp out attractions to minors is creating attractions to minors.

Science suggests two things that are usually true. The first is that the development of sexuality and sexual attraction occurs just before and during puberty. The second is that Teiliophilia (attraction to adults) is supposed to be whats normal.

Here we get the first paradox; it is supposed to be normal for young people to sexually attracted to adults, but abnormal the other way round. A youth can desire an older partner, but cannot experience them.

Second Paradox; youths are increasingly told that adults are bad, wicked, evil and disgusting monsters and that sex/romance with a person over 18 is always wrong. So they are encouraged to only view their peers as potential sexual partners, at the most crucial stage of sexual development. At this point, such things as love-maps and arousal templates would come into play. The love map and arousal template is forceably tuned to your peers, and you will have had years of pedagogical propaganda that adults are to be feared.

Now we have some interesting results - The mean age of those on VirPed is 21 - exactly the generation who have grown up with sex panic. The mean age of attraction is around puberty on surveys both VirPed and B4U-ACT.

What if you see a 16 year old as an adult? Might that muddy the water ever so slightly?

That being said, I wouldn't dare break the law on that one. Outside that, there are only a few that I would even admit finding a 17 year old attractive to (and that's legal in my state), because of the way people are. I knew a lady who smoked pot with her daughter, but tried criticizing me for saying she had an attractive 18 year old daughter (priorities.... much?). She was 17 at the time, but who cares?

You want to poison her head with drugs, you're awesome. Want to pleasure her in ways that she might want and potentially be an asset to her life? Pedophile! Despite being indistinguishable anatomically and neurologically with her 16, 17, 18, and 19 year old peers.

Just because people are quiet about such matters, don't for a minute believe everyone thinks like those loud histerical prudes. As far as finding someone who has gone through puberty attractive, and being an adult, I fail to see that as "abnormal". Whether or not that's in the best interest of that boy or girl to have a sexual relationship with an adult, is a completely different matter.

Though I'm a prude who doesn't think that casual sex and relationships not aimed at long term mutually fulfilling relationships (ideally with marriage for life) are in anyone's best interest. I also don't think my state has its marriage age of consent high enough (15 is a little young to decide who you want to marry, as its a life-changing decision).