safe outlets

I'm a nonexclusive, non-offending pedo (0-11). One of my safe outlets for this is online roleplay and even phonesex. I was wondering what you guys use for a safe outlet?

Personally, I don't think that I would consider those two things safe outlets...

A safe (or at least a safer) outlet would be like a hobby. Crocheting, hiking, cooking and dirt bike riding/bicycle riding would be considered a safe outlet. Staying off the computer and telephone would be safe.

Again, IMHO, keeping away from things that antagonise or increase the likelihood of offending is more of a sexual outlet. I've been exactly where you are. I'm currently battling where you are.

Pedophilia is not a crime and admiration of beautiful young isn't illegal. But instigating an opportunity to perform an illegal act, such as trading pics or communication with a minor is. And if you're anything like me, if an opportunity to be a 12yo girl and chat with another 12yo, via phone, IM or whatever, would be a great time. But its illegal.

Now this is only my opinion. What's great about boards like this is that you're offered many other opinions. Take them all in and do what you think is best for yourself.

My outlets are far and few between... I help alot with my religious group, I walk and bike ride a little. But that's about all. For me, watching TV and the internet are not healthy/safe outlets.

Hey Juan

Im like you
( 5-12 )

The important thing, if you are like me. Is to have a rutine to keep youre self on a non-exploding level.
Sometimes you need more, and other times nothing.
Its like going on a date. If you mastrubate before the date, you feel more relaxed, and in controll.

Outs:
Roleplay with escorts, roleplay with cam-girls, movies, pics. End eaven regular porn with inocent-looking girls.

I wasn't referring to roleplaying with someone underage or doing anything illegal.

spott1207 wrote:Personally, I don't think that I would consider those two things safe outlets...

A safe (or at least a safer) outlet would be like a hobby. Crocheting, hiking, cooking and dirt bike riding/bicycle riding would be considered a safe outlet. Staying off the computer and telephone would be safe.

That's not an outlet. That's sublimation, and really unhealthy.

YouthRightsRadical wrote:

spott1207 wrote:Personally, I don't think that I would consider those two things safe outlets...

A safe (or at least a safer) outlet would be like a hobby. Crocheting, hiking, cooking and dirt bike riding/bicycle riding would be considered a safe outlet. Staying off the computer and telephone would be safe.

That's not an outlet. That's sublimation, and really unhealthy.

I have to apologize in advance. I don't quite understand. I looked up sublimation and I'm wondering (since you quoted me), what was the sublimation statement or remark? Was it what I said? Or were you agreeing with me and saying what the original poster said?

spott1207 wrote:

YouthRightsRadical wrote:

spott1207 wrote:Personally, I don't think that I would consider those two things safe outlets...

A safe (or at least a safer) outlet would be like a hobby. Crocheting, hiking, cooking and dirt bike riding/bicycle riding would be considered a safe outlet. Staying off the computer and telephone would be safe.

That's not an outlet. That's sublimation, and really unhealthy.

I have to apologize in advance. I don't quite understand. I looked up sublimation and I'm wondering (since you quoted me), what was the sublimation statement or remark? Was it what I said? Or were you agreeing with me and saying what the original poster said?

I'm saying that riding a bike or cooking as a substitute for sexual satisfaction is not the same thing as having a sexual outlet.

I'm saying that trying to channel your sexual frustration into such activities might be able to provide partial relief, but ultimately, it's going to leave you in the same situation as gays who try to pretend they don't feel attraction towards members of their own sex due to legal/social pressure. You may end up less harmed by avoiding the social censure, but in the end, the harm you suffer as a result of this is nonzero.

Not proud of my pedo desires, but I concur with the original poster. Roleplay is one of the few things that helps.

Masturbation, role-play and dolls. Masturbation helps the most. However role-play helps some, and having a doll to fulfill the need to be "close" helps sometimes too.

I can't believe that I'm going to agree with YouthRightsRadical on something, but yeah, sublimation is a good way to drive yourself insane. In this context, you're basically trying to use other parts of your brain, and ignore another part of your brain. An outlet would use that sexual part of your brain in ways that would actually help you find relief, but to ignore any urge (be it hunger, thirst, etc....), there's instances where that desire could become overpowering as a result.

It's easy to use the hunger analogy. It's just you and your best friend stranded on everest. Eventually, hunger overpowers that bond you have. You need iodine, and those eyes you loved to see when talking to him, now look mighty delicious.

Though in the real world, things are seldom that extreme. Yet you still need to consider what to do about finding either a safe outlet, or a means of reducing that desire (i.e. libido-decreasing medications).