fantasies with children only where there are people present

My fantasies with children take place only outdoors or where ever there are alot of people, like a supermarket. Never in private. What do you think this means?

You don't seem to acknowledge any of my responses but I'll keep responding.

If all of your fantasies involve a place where lots of people can see you then that must be an important factor. Perhaps the thought of being watched excites you? Perhaps the thought of being found out excites you? The danger of being caught out? Maybe the thought of being known excites you? Maybe people seeing you with a child and their possible thoughts and reactions excites you? Maybe it is a conditioning you have because your media has run stories on molestations taking place in public or near public areas? (Not a judgement on you).

I aknowledge your responses and thank you. just dont know how to respond.
I might be one of those things. Maybe I m trying to normalise it in my mind and make it seem ok. Major guilt comes after it though, just by having the thought. I would never make this fantasy reality.

It's fine. I shouldn't be so insecure and paranoid.

Perhaps that is the reason why but we can't know for sure. A psychologist might be able to successfully psychoanalyse it.

I know you wouldn't make it reality.

Ι wouldnt even though I want to because I live in Greece and I dont think they are trained at all on this subject. I am almost ready to talk about it with my best friend.

Most therapists or psychiatrists aren't experts on it but there may be some in your country. Some people who specialise in that area. Your therapist may be able to search for them or pass you onto them.

Have you done anything to try and gauge their response? Some people aren't open to the idea until they have someone they personally know come forward about it. Others simply aren't open to it at all. How confident are you that your best friend will accept you? It may be worth not telling them and keeping that source of support to help deal with other issues. Is there another friend you might be able to tell? You also need to consider whether they will keep your secret both if they accept you and if not.

well he is my best friend and only real friend taht I talk to on a daily basis. He is good at keeping secrects so I m not scared he might tell, though I do have some doubts that he will accept me. He loves children and plays with them whenever they are around (so did I before I realise my attractions, not as much though, I always felt kind of a distace is appropriate) and I have heard him being really angry at child molesters when we had a discussion about ancient Greece. I am not a child molester and will make that clear, but he may not be sure about me not molesting. Other than that he is very open minded and thats why I am considering telling him.

Well only you know your best friend and if he does accept you then that could be a huge relief and a source of support and understanding. Just be aware of the potential consequences and the fact that you may lose your best friend. Were you discussing child molestation in ancient Greece? Because pederasty wasn't considered child molestation or harmful so it might be a bit concerning if he feels that way. If he will keep your secret even if he doesn't accept it and you also feel that you need to tell him then I guess good luck.

I m not sure pederasty and child molestation are different, here we only use the word pederasty for it. Well someone said something positive about ancient Greece and he replied "YEAH BUT THEY USED TO ###$ CHILDREN!" and it ended there. Thats what makes me concerned. Anyways thanks, I am more inclined towards not telling him cause I could lose my best friend and that would make me much lonelier than I am. I only hang around few people and with him its almost every day.

I can appreciate the benefits if he were to accept you but it's better to be safe than sorry for now I think.