Should I be concerned?

ive been with my fiance for 10 years. We have a great relationship. He is a great man. The other day I got on his computer as I needed a file and I found he had many pictures of children models (clothed)! This is strange, right? I also find his web searches included one that said "jailbait". When I confronted him, he said that the pics of children were not what he was interested in. He liked the adults (yeah, there were a few adults in there as well). They were clothed too. Nothing was porn. He says he doesnt really like porn. He likes to look at women who are innocent with bows in their hair and lace dresses/etc. Jailbait is a term he uses to find those women and he'll download files which happen to also have the children in it. He swears he never looks at the children. I later found burned cds of more pictures (which also had children & adults) None of the pictures are sexual. Just regular catalog photos. He's offended that I'm concerned. I don't know what to do. I Would love to hear all your opinions on this. I'm afraid to talk to anyone I know regarding this as I don't want people we know to judge him. I want to make an intelligent decision about our future and hearing a variety of opinions will help me do so.

Many males are attracted to mid-late teens, although not all of them like to admit it. 'teen', 'jailbait', 'barely legal' are all very popular porn categories for a reason. If he is attracted to young looking women and searches jailbait then why would he not watch teen pornography or have pornographic images though? Catalogue model children would be a good way to get pictures of cute kids without risking owning child pornography. If he is just attracted to younger looking women then he is pretty much the average man but it is weird all the images are of clothes individuals. If he is attracted to children then that doesn't suddenly make him a monster who will molest children. Being attracted to children doesn't suddenly remove your morals. Even if he is attracted to children doesn't mean he can't also be attracted to adults. if you guys have a healthy relationship and everything is fine in the bedroom then I'm sure you have no worries about his attraction to you.

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Yeah, I'd say it's likely that he has an attraction to teens as most men do I'd say to some degree quite feasibly children. But just as you wouldn't expect him to commit adultery if he were an exclusive teleiophile there's no reason we his attraction to youths should have any bearing on your lives.

You should tell him you except him no matter what his sexuality because relationships are based on trust. Him keeping a such a big secret from his significant other will not be healthy for him or your relationship.

I can't find anything about the subject material to be of much concern.

The concept of fetish is very wide and long and large, with much niche and sub sub category type paraphilia and fetish. To have an interest in clothed women and girls doesn't elicit even a yawn from me. If he were substituting these pics for your love life, than ok, a problem. But aren't we all collectors of different things?

I do think the area of worry is to have a fiancé of 10 years keeping this a secret from you. True, he's probably worried about your reaction. But secrecy is a pretty bad thing in a long term relationship, it erodes trust and makes people paranoid and crazy.

It aggravates me that in prior centuries children were considered to be beautiful subjects for art (and yes many kids were abused back then as well as today) It's up to each individual. Looking at pictures of children isn't 'bad' as long as sex isn't the object even though nowadays ANY attention toward children is treated as suspect or even worse. If none of the pictures your fiance has are too revealing or suggestive even the law would have to say it's ok. Describing them as 'jail bait' though, strongly implies sexual interest. He's walking a fine line.

many pictures of children models (clothed)! This is strange, right? ... None of the pictures are sexual. Just regular catalog photos.

No, it's not strange. This guy I knew pretty well told me that Russians, South Americans, and even Americans produce tens of thousands of photo sets of little girls; they wear dresses, jeans, swim wear and so on. Lots of guys apparently really like to look at these pictures. Since nudity and erotic posing could lead to child pornography charges, these collections of pictures of girls are apparently mostly rather tame.

Thylane is a real model, not an internet only model, maybe you would be interested to learn a bit about her and see how lovely she looks, it could provide a common ground for you and your partner to share and bond about.

http://missthylaneblondeau.com/

This similar site is Autumn Miller's. She's pretty cute too and your partner might also know of her or like to learn about her. She's primarily a dancer, not just a model, but she has been photographed extensively.

http://autumn-miller.org/

Here is one more child model for you to get some insight into the beauty of girls, this is Kristina Pimenova. She too is a genuine model, and very popular. She's from Russia.

http://viola.bz/kristina-pimenova-russian-model/

I hope these links help so you can build a bridge into your partner's life and also for your own joy as well.

theclouds wrote:

many pictures of children models (clothed)! This is strange, right? ... None of the pictures are sexual. Just regular catalog photos.

No, it's not strange. This guy I knew pretty well told me that Russians, South Americans, and even Americans produce tens of thousands of photo sets of little girls; they wear dresses, jeans, swim wear and so on. Lots of guys apparently really like to look at these pictures. Since nudity and erotic posing could lead to child pornography charges, these collections of pictures of girls are apparently mostly rather tame.

Thylane is a real model, not an internet only model, maybe you would be interested to learn a bit about her and see how lovely she looks, it could provide a common ground for you and your partner to share and bond about.

http://missthylaneblondeau.com/

This similar site is Autumn Miller's. She's pretty cute too and your partner might also know of her or like to learn about her. She's primarily a dancer, not just a model, but she has been photographed extensively.

http://autumn-miller.org/

Here is one more child model for you to get some insight into the beauty of girls, this is Kristina Pimenova. She too is a genuine model, and very popular. She's from Russia.

http://viola.bz/kristina-pimenova-russian-model/

I hope these links help so you can build a bridge into your partner's life and also for your own joy as well.

That's very well done. Those are gorgeous. I like beauty and I like pretty girls of all sorts and I'm not ashamed of it. I think it's rotten when they take a little girl and sexify them like they do in those pageants.